Now if your wife/fiance/girlfriend was pregnant... (if you have had one) would you start limiting her on what she did throughout the day? Limit when she could go to the store, when she could clean, what she could lift, ect? If so... why would you do this? Do you see her as fragile?
Just figured i need to add... Yes this has to do with my own relationship. Recently my husbands been doing the above, which he never did with the first and barely during the second but for some reason with this pregnancy he's refused to let me clean as long as i want, go to the store or more then once or twice a week or if going to the store... he will refuse to let me go to more then one store. He won't let me lift anything over like five pounds... this includes the kids and he gets irate as hell if i move the tv or the kid's bed, ect. It irks me and i have to remind him I'm not fragile and I'm perfectly capable of doing more then he thinks i should be doing. If i make a comment about being nauseous... it seems like he uses that as a weapon to keep me from doing things as often as i would like. I would like to know if any other men are the same way...
If her Doc said that she needed to limit her activity for her and the babies safety and/or health she would be on lockdown so quick that her head would spin.
Other then that no. I wouldn't. She wouldnt be the first woman to have a baby and certainly not the last. You chicks are tough cookies
Now if your wife/fiance/girlfriend was pregnant... (if you have had one) would you start limiting her on what she did throughout the day? Limit when she could go to the store, when she could clean, what she could lift, ect? If so... why would you do this? Do you see her as fragile?
Its really quite honorable. I'm guilty, I needed to protect her and pamper her. My advice, let yourself enjoy being taken care of a little.
I would think it is part of many men's protection mechanism. Men like myself are hardwired to protect our family. I can't remember being overly this way with my wife, but I bet I was to some extent.
I just dropped my wife off at the airport. I got out of the car and got her suticase for her. I was brought up this way. Where I live today doing these things for a woman period are still the norm. I know that was not your question. That said, most husbands are significantly stronger than their wives so we pickup things quite readily.
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Its really quite honorable. I'm guilty, I needed to protect her and pamper her. My advice, let yourself enjoy being taken care of a little.
My husband would try to pamper me also... but he also knew I would never do anything in this world to jeopardize a pregnancy, I was always very sensible. I generally was reading 3 books on anything that can hurt a growing baby, from the foods I eat to (certain cheeses), too heavy of lifting, what diseases could cause problems to the fetus if you are exposed (5th disease is one)... to things I breathed in my body...etc. I was a walking encyclopedia of how to handle a safe pregnancy. I knew way more than my husband did- cause he is not a reader.
There was a lady I worked with in my youth, she went out riding horses -thought nothing of it -trodding while pregnant, she lost that baby.... I would never in a zillion years do something like that.
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Gaia said: he gets irate as hell if i move the tv or the kid's bed
See, I would likely not do this... we all feel like superwoman - but better to be safe than sorry..it only takes a moment. I recall reading something about -if you stretch your arms over your head too high in the last trimester, it has the possibilty to wrap the cord around the babies neck,I wanted to play it safe.
It sounds your husband is showing how much he loves & cares for you & this baby, this is something to smile huge about ! All upcoming fathers should feel this way!
Although the tv and bed are light as heck .. and no i don't move the beds if the kids are in them since thats an extra 20 to 30 lbs but i do move the beds when cleaning. What I'm a tad irked about is last night. We went to walmart, got a few things and afterwards i remembered i had to get some hair ties. I told him to stop at the dollar tree so i could run in and get some, he said... "No... your not running and doing anything." I then told him that i wasn't literally going to run .. i would walk into the store and get the hair ties. He STILL refused and said i could get them later or he would go get them the next day. I mean.. we were RIGHT there and I swear.. he acted as if I would keel over if i just went to pick up a thing of hair ties!! That and he refused to let me finish cleaning last night.. which he KNOWS irks the heck out of me. He KNOWS I'm ocd about that. Sure this pregnancy has been a bit difficult compared to the last two but i really think he's over reacting...
Just figured i need to add... Yes this has to do with my own relationship. Recently my husbands been doing the above, which he never did with the first and barely during the second but for some reason with this pregnancy he's refused to let me clean as long as i want, go to the store or more then once or twice a week or if going to the store... he will refuse to let me go to more then one store. He won't let me lift anything over like five pounds... this includes the kids and he gets irate as hell if i move the tv or the kid's bed, ect. It irks me and i have to remind him I'm not fragile and I'm perfectly capable of doing more then he thinks i should be doing. If i make a comment about being nauseous... it seems like he uses that as a weapon to keep me from doing things as often as i would like. I would like to know if any other men are the same way...
So...you're husband wants you to relax, and you're mad at him for making you relax? Dude.
I didn't say I was mad.. I said i was a bit irritated because i feel he's being a bit to over protective. And no I didn't say it offended my ego but to not stop and get hair ties when we were right there... seems a bit much to me.
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