I'm a guy, between my fiancee and another girl. I need a woman's advice.
Ok so I’m going to get to the point. I need some advice.
I’m getting married next month to my fiancée. My fiancée has been battling anxiety and depression. Well I guess maybe it’s getting to me. I was bored one day while she was asleep and I went on Chatroulette. Well, while on there I met this girl named Karli. I’ve stayed up late just to talk to Karli secretly while my fiancée sleeps cuz she’s sick. I’m really starting to like her. Like we text back and forth. I feel so so so so so so so guilty that, last night, I actually wanted to cry myself to sleep. Idk if it’s because I’m feeling guilty and I know I have to hurt Karli because I’m getting married or because now I kinda feel trapped. I have some of the best times with my fiancée, I mean enough to want to marry her. I’m just very confused and I know it makes me the biggest **** for talking to another girl behind my fiancee’s back, so please don’t judge. I’d really like some advice. I’ve only been talking to Karli for like 4 days now, and that’s an amazingly short time. Maybe I’m just feeling comforted by Karli right now because the depression is getting bad (she’s on med, it just flares up once and a while). I don’t want to leave my fiancée and take the chance. Please lend me some help.
I'm between my fiancee and another girl. I need another man's advice.
Ok so I’m going to get to the point. I need some advice.
I’m getting married next month to my fiancée. My fiancée has been battling anxiety and depression. Well I guess maybe it’s getting to me. I was bored one day while she was asleep and I went on Chatroulette. Well, while on there I met this girl named Karli. I’ve stayed up late just to talk to Karli secretly while my fiancée sleeps cuz she’s sick. I’m really starting to like her. Like we text back and forth. I feel so so so so so so so guilty that, last night, I actually wanted to cry myself to sleep. Idk if it’s because I’m feeling guilty and I know I have to hurt Karli because I’m getting married or because now I kinda feel trapped. I have some of the best times with my fiancée, I mean enough to want to marry her. I’m just very confused and I know it makes me the biggest **** for talking to another girl behind my fiancee’s back, so please don’t judge. I’d really like some advice. I’ve only been talking to Karli for like 4 days now, and that’s an amazingly short time. Maybe I’m just feeling comforted by Karli right now because the depression is getting bad (she’s on med, it just flares up once and a while). I don’t want to leave my fiancée and take the chance. Please lend me some help.
Re: I'm a guy, between my fiancee and another girl. I need a woman's advice.
My advice to you you is to "grow up". Either you are going to get married and be loyal, or you are not; which means you shouldn't get married. Don't waste emotional energy, both yours and hers. Call the wedding off and continue to play the field. Your not ready for marriage.
Re: I'm a guy, between my fiancee and another girl. I need a woman's advice.
Yeah, I see what you're saying. Everything was okay until Karli came into the picture. It's my responsibility to remove temptations and stay with my fiancee. I feel I am ready for marriage. My fiancee has been sick for the past week and been upstairs in the bedroom for a week now. Maybe I'm feeling neglected and Karli is that "ray of light". I'll wait until my fiancee gets better and things will most likely return to normal. I've been with her for 3 years. If not, then I'll talk to her about it. Maybe it's just cold feet.
Re: I'm a guy, between my fiancee and another girl. I need a woman's advice.
It could just be cold feet, but you have to be the judge of that. Going to another woman isn't going to help you decide, that's why I think you should reconsider.
BTW: I'm a guy, I shouldn't have replied to you. I forgot what forum I was in.
Re: I'm a guy, between my fiancee and another girl. I need a woman's advice.
That's ok, I posted this in the men's lounge too. I think it's cold feet. What if I'm making the wrong decision? She's been on depression meds since october, what if it doesn't get better? I'm really confused...
Re: I'm a guy, between my fiancee and another girl. I need a woman's advice.
If you're not able to be committed to the woman you are about to marry, then please tell her now so you guys don't get married. You're cheating on her with some cyber-sleaze you don't even know. You clearly don't want to be with this woman and you're clearly not mature enough for marriage. Please let your girlfriend go so she can find someone more worthy of her time than you. You have a lot of growing up to do. (I'm not trying to insult you, just trying to call it like I see it.)
Re: I'm a guy, between my fiancee and another girl. I need a woman's advice.
[My fiancee has been battling anxiety and depression].You need to put the weeding on hold until your fiancee get her issues under control so she can manage from day to day because you will be dealing with two major illnesses which is a very difficult situation.You need to stay by your gals side while she battles them before you get married.
Re: I'm between my fiancee and another girl. I need another man's advice.
This new girl is of no consequence, you`ve known her for all of 4 days.
Stop talking to her, cut her out of your life, do it now.
The fact that she does seem to mean something to you after 4 days of chatting is more telling than anything else in your post.
You have some serious self esteem issues for some reason.
I would advise you to call off this marriage.
You obviously aren`t ready for such a commitment (Get that self esteem problem looked at) and even if you were I`d advise you not to marry any women who is "battling anxiety and depression".
You think you`re dealing with anxiety and depression now?
Just wait until after the "I Do`s".
You ain`t seen nothin' yet.
Call it off, dump the chat chick, and re-evaluate your fiancé and yourself.
Re: I'm between my fiancee and another girl. I need another man's advice.
Yep, have to agree with the others. You're not even married and you're already straying. Cancel the wedding and figure out what you want to do. She sounds like she's going to need a lot of care from her man. Do you want to be a caregiver to her? Or do you want to free her up to look for a man who will want to provide the emotional support she's going to need? She doesn't sound like she's going to meet your needs. You're not married yet. Don't make a mistake. Let her go and you should move on.
Re: I'm between my fiancee and another girl. I need another man's advice.
Whatever you do don't get married to your finacee, from what you've written here you have absolutely no future with her. Walking away now will be painful for sure, but nothing like the pain and money involved in a divorce.
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