06-07-2012, 10:18 AM
Join Date: Jun 2012
| | Re: Am I Wrong for Being Upset?
Originally Posted by Zippy the chimp
You both betrayed each other, it is just a matter to what degree you classify the acts, to me an EA/PA is much worse than a one time thing with a hooker(no emotion) I am not condoning any of it you were both wrong. Look at it this way if I jump off of my shed I am going to get hurt, If I jump off my house I will probably die, I jumped in both cases so I am stupid. You do have more of a right to be upset and hurt and that never goes away she should remember that, so should you when she has an issue with what you did you have no right to complain or get upset it is what you are each feeling. You are both responsible to help and comfort each other when the betrayal issues come up today, tomorrow or in ten years.
Don't know about this.
From a strictly logical standpoint, you might be correct. But we're not dealing from a strictly logical standpoint. We're dealing from an emotional standpoint. Emotions is what got us here, and not logic. So, I'm not sure saying someone has a "right" to feel something over another is realistic. Both sides have the right to feel whatever. It's going to happen whether they have a right to it or not, so you might as well go with it.
You're also dismissing the shame the wife probably feels over a big mistake. What's the thing mistake in your life you're most ashamed of? Now imagine your wife or significant other shoves it in your face. And maybe this isn't the 1st time. How do you feel?