Insecure

I can see a record of all the texts and phone calls online on our phone bill. They used to text a little more than I would expect is necessary to schedule sessions but haven't texted much at all since the trip to city. I see no record of any phone calls ever.

sculley

Alright dear let me break this down for you. The fact that it's not happening as much anymore to me could show there was something going on.....That's just me because if there wasn't anything going on what would be the need to stop so much all of a sudden? Just food for thought. Maybe its over now and if that's true that's great but I would be a little suspicious for a while considering that would be my proof that something did happen or was in the process of happening when you confonted her.

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Toffer

Sculley,

I would also think that the OPs previous confrontations and questions may have driven this too cool off a bit or has driven it partially underground.

Bottled Up

Agreed. All it takes is a 2nd burn phone for you to lose all visibility on the activities.

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Insecure

Thought I would add a quick update for posterity in case someone comes across this thread.

Wife and I have been attending MC biweekly for 2 hours a session with a fantastic counselor who agrees that boundaries were crossed. It has been immensely helpful and we are closer now than we've been in many years. I feel like this incident has forced me to open up and that she probably knows the real me better now than she ever has.
She still uses the personal trainer but there is just one more session and then it's over. I've been monitoring their sessions by being present in the gym area when he shows up and listening to them from another room when she works out and it has allayed many of my concerns in that I hear nothing personal is being discussed. She and I work out together regularly now as well which is great.

Things aren't 100% perfect of course. We occasionally hit a rough patch as we work things out but I believe that each such problem we encounter makes us stronger as we reach mutually agreeable solutions.

So it looks like there will be a happy ending to this story. I appreciate everyones input and I hope everyone else who finds themselves in a similar situation has similar success.

Dr. Rockstar

Good for you, Insecure! Sometimes all the advice in the world won't help you because the advisors own opinions have been colored by their experiences. I'm glad you followed your gut instead of having a more extreme reaction. Hopefully things will work out for both of you

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RClawson

the best ending I have ever read here!

ghadi

Jealousy is one of the common causes why marriage fails. I recommend a book were it teaches on how to save marriages. It has a simple and easy techniques that builds a strong foundation for a couples.

costa200

Just catched up on this thread. This story should have stopped at the question "don't you trust your wife?"... Step to the right spill his glass over him, he looks to his pants and BAAAAAAM uppercut with all the power i could muster... But that's me. I'm mean...

srtjm

Sorry about what you are going trhu. Protect yourself. Get good advice from a lawyer.

Entropy3000

The situation seems to be at a very critical point. Going to be interesting to see what happens after the last session ...

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keko

....and with the new trainer.
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Insecure

Last session never even happened. Trainer was a no show. He is out of town until next year now. She isn't getting a new male personal trainer. No need for lawyers. Ultimately there was no romantic relationship between them. Who knows where it might have led but now it's over and my wife and I are doing great so all is well. Had I punched the guy I would probably have been charged with assault and would be dealing with those consequences now. I am happy with the way I resolved this.