We have all these threads of us wives being hurt/upset that our husbands masturbate frequently to porn. But what if we did it too? Would it bother you hubbys?.....even though you're doing it as well?
dormant, what if it affected your sex life and her desire for you? As if she had already taken care of business and would rather just go to sleep at night.
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I have an issue with it because we have not had sex in 5+ months AND she no longer even touches me; BUT she admitted to me that she does this 'as a stress reliever' in the shower from time-to-time.
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Ano, I can safely say that there are some men who would say "oh yea! I have no problem with it!"...simply because they want their wives to be ok with their porn/masturbation activities. NOT ALL but SOME would not be ok if it actually came to fruition. Why? Because it takes away from them. Because it means the wife is not having sex with them, for whatever reason. I know, there are some who will argue that it's perfectly fine for either spouse to do this. Generally, I would agree. If both are ok with it, fine, do what you want. However, as with ANY activity...if it takes from the marriage, from the marriage bed, from the relationship at all...if anything done drives a wedge between the couple, then it needs to stop or they move on.... this is IF they can't come to an agreeable compromise for BOTH parties.
I feel fortunate that mine doesn't fall into this category.
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Originally Posted by hldnhope
I have an issue with it because we have not had sex in 5+ months AND she no longer even touches me; BUT she admitted to me that she does this 'as a stress reliever' in the shower from time-to-time.
Then that is a BIG problem. In that situation, she should NOT be relieving stress in the shower but having sex with you. That's messed up. I mean, even if it was once a month but she didn't masturbate... I'm sure you would feel a LITTLE better. Seriously, why is someone married if they have no intention of having sex with their partner? *smh*
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Originally Posted by Ano
dormant, what if it affected your sex life and her desire for you? As if she had already taken care of business and would rather just go to sleep at night.
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Originally Posted by tacoma
It only bothers me when she doesn't set up her iPad to Face Time me when she does it.
I think it's ridiculous to be upset about your partners "normal" masturbation habits.
I think it's beyond controlling to ask them to stop Posted via Mobile Device
Not to mince words but, what is "normal"? LOL
I do agree that you shouldn't TELL your partner "you can't do that!"... However, I do think that if it affects the sex life: i.e. no sex or drastically decreased, it isn't "normal"
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Originally Posted by hldnhope
I have an issue with it because we have not had sex in 5+ months AND she no longer even touches me; BUT she admitted to me that she does this 'as a stress reliever' in the shower from time-to-time.
DING! We had a fight the other night because she's not having sex with me, but I'm having to listen to her comments about men on TV shows she finds sexy. And she watches the damn shows just for the men.
I told her how it made me feel. She got pissed because I asked her not to watch them while we're working through our sexual issues and not having, and I got pissed because she still insisted on watching the shows. I kinda blew up and over-reacted honestly. That's on me. But it bothers me that she had so little regard for my feelings that a TV show is more important to her.
Not to mince words but, what is "normal"? LOL
I do agree that you shouldn't TELL your partner "you can't do that!"... However, I do think that if it affects the sex life: i.e. no sex or drastically decreased, it isn't "normal"
Your definition of "normal" is mine as well.
If it has no averse effect on you or your relationship have at it
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Originally Posted by Drover
DING! We had a fight the other night because she's not having sex with me, but I'm having to listen to her comments about men on TV shows she finds sexy. And she watches the damn shows just for the men.
I told her how it made me feel. She got pissed because I asked her not to watch them while we're working through our sexual issues and not having, and I got pissed because she still insisted on watching the shows. I kinda blew up and over-reacted honestly. That's on me. But it bothers me that she had so little regard for my feelings that a TV show is more important to her.
WTF????????? She's unreal! No, she shouldn't be expecting you to listen to who she finds sexy.... unless you are telling her the same thing about women?
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WTF????????? She's unreal! No, she shouldn't be expecting you to listen to who she finds sexy.... unless you are telling her the same thing about women?
Normally it wouldn't bother me. I mean big deal, it's some TV star, and I'm not really that insecure EXCEPT she's doing it when she has no interest in me.
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I see nothing wrong with it of course I know if my wife does it she will be tapping me on the shoulder to say lets go I need some not too long after. But you are right she would just come to me to relieve the stress unless I am working and am not around. I know for a guy masturbation can take away from regular sex but for a woman? A guy has to reload so he might not be ready or able to preform, a woman doesn't have that problem other than being tired so I don't know.
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