Originally Posted by Katiebird
Mime: I am still a little confused. I was the OP in the "Passive Aggressive or am I crazy" post. I have scanned through - and admit I have not read thoroughly all of the posts in this thread. My question is about specifics. What are some examples of your wife's PA behaviour? What is the "crazy making" behaviour that your wife is exhibiting?
Katie, believe it or not, I've/we've fixed the problem in the past week.
I was directed to Shari Schrieber's blog. I read the one about Waifs and Heroes, and then I read the rest of her articles.
I have to say, almost everything I read made a good impression. Especially the fact that some of the traits she described happened to fit my own personality as much as my wife's. Matter of fact, it was too accurate for me to deny.
So, I more or less swung my focus on to myself, got very absorbed in learning, and I wasn't noticing my wife's behaviour at all. She noticed that, and, long story short, she suddenly said how happy she was that I wasn't being so grumpy. I told her that I had been too preoccupied finding out some hard truths about myself, and that, in turn, led to us talking about PA, and BPD, and god knows what else.
The old cliche that "It's all about communication" is very true. But you have to know what you're talking about, too! I've learned something new, and that's always a good thing.
Very productive place, this.
Now, I'm only sticking around to annoy Football. LOL!!
Thanks for your interest, KatieB.