Re: Passive-aggressive wife.
There are ways to DEAL with passive/aggressive people. Search for ways and things to try. Just because you are learning ways to deal with it, doesn't mean it will stop it or make it go away. It may help lessen the way that person irritates you though.
If you have done everything under the sun, and tried most all things, and they still operate in that manner, then it comes down to choice. Stay and hope things get better, or leave. Life is short and no one wants to be around people who operate in that manner and are not willing to learn to try and help them selves.
Also another thing to keep in mind, the person you are dealing with thats operating in a passive aggressive manner may also have something else going on, such as a undiagnosed mental disorder. Unfortunately though, unless that person goes to a counselor/doctor and gets checked out, would be hard to know for sure, if it just a person with deep rooted ingrained poor learned behaviors such as passive aggression, or if they have something deeper going on.