my hubs sort of jabs me about my number... and pretty often actually... i met him when i was 23, and my number was 7... i thought that was pretty normal?? kind of on the low side? but my hubs was a virgin when i met him.. so i guess compared to 0, 7 is a lot...
does your wife's number bother you? too high? too low??
my hubs sort of jabs me about my number... and pretty often actually... i met him when i was 23, and my number was 7... i thought that was pretty normal?? kind of on the low side? but my hubs was a virgin when i met him.. so i guess compared to 0, 7 is a lot...
does your wife's number bother you? too high? too low??
It's sort of irrelevant isn't it? If a person doesn't know who he is marrying, that's his fault isn't it? If a number of sexual partners is important to know to him, he should have asked the question earlier. If he didn't like the number, he should move along.
By the way, 7 partners by the age of 23 is nothing to feel bad about. I think that it demonstrates that you took some effort to learn about yourself, what you liked, didn't like, etc.
Frankly, even if you said it was 30 partners, who cares? Don't let others judge you on such a meaningless statistic.
I don't know how many men my wife has been with and I don't care. I would never give her crap about it because I chose to marry her knowing she had been sexually active before me. I would never demean her over this number. That would be totally insensitive.
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My wife's number is substantially higher than mine. Probably 3 or 4 fold. Never bothered me, just sparring rounds in preparation of the big event as far as I'm concerned. One piece of advice, we never discuss specific acts, partners or compare physical attributes or skills of our past partners. I think that has helped us to keep secure in our sex life. 25+ years.
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not to hijack this thread or anything but what is "normal" for a 47 yr old american woman? or man for that matter? i am canadian so i don't know but my other half is american.
It's not really something me and my husband talk about. I know his is higher, but I have no idea what the exact number of women are. I don't really care, and I don't think he does either
As long as our numbers are each 1 since we've been together, that's all that matters.
Is it weird that I have no idea what my own number is? I know it's fairly high and included a lot of ONS in high school etc... I guess I didn't realize you were supposed to keep track of this stuff. Perhaps I should only count the "real" relationships. That would make the number a lot more reasonable.
every experience made her what she is in bed today, so I'll continue to be ok with it.
ours are both a little on the high side, but there is only the one that really matters. Better to get that crap out of the way early on than to feel as though you've missed something after being married...
not to hijack this thread or anything but what is "normal" for a 47 yr old american woman? or man for that matter? i am canadian so i don't know but my other half is american.
28 ... for both sexes, according to Deejo
according to some dude named Kinsey, it is 4 lifetime partners for women, and 7 for men ... on average.
Some people prefer not to know and I can understand that. I know his and he knows mine. Compared to most TAMmers, our numbers are very low but we're both fine with it. Don't ask for the number though unless you're ready to hear it. Women tend to underreport and men (IMHO) tend to overreport.
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