06-20-2012, 11:23 PM
Join Date: May 2011
| | Re: Public Displays...and other romantic gestures
To me, it's the surprise element... the unexpected... and that he doesn't change his behavior towards me because others are there. That is what is special to me.
He opens the car door for me whether we're alone or if family are with us. He opens doors for me in general, shows me affection in front of others, includes me, and I posted on a different thread how he takes the seat in a restaurant without a 'view' of the surroundings/people. If we arrive to a table, and he's going to be facing a wall, I always ask if he wants to swap sides. He replies "I have the best view of all.." meaning me, not the wall lol. I have taken the seat without the view before and insisted he have the 'view' when there's been a real view to enjoy. I'm side-tracking. He will say he has the most beautiful view of all, regardless of whether it's just me or if the waiter/waitress are there handing us menus at the time. It might sound cheesy but I tell ya, it doesn't get old with me lol. I always feel myself blush slightly and the waiters just grin.
Flowers at work.... I love receiving flowers whenever and wherever but having the fuss in the office doesn't particularly do anything for me. I like that he's thought of me though - it's the unexpected in that regard that is appealing to me. If I was to state a preference, I'd rather receive flowers at home. The fuss of other women/coworkers does nothing for me.
Turning up to take me to lunch... another welcome surprise but it's the element of surprise for me, the thought behind it, that he's packed us a lunch or is ready to take us out somewhere, not the fact that it's in front of others.
Despite these forums, I lean towards being on the private/intimate side with such things. Maybe I'm somewhat alone in this, but it's both the unexpected and consistent behavior that is appealing. Does that make sense?
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