06-28-2012, 08:57 AM
Join Date: Nov 2011
Raising small children is exhausting. Some women handle it better then others. The same goes for parenting skills, some are better at it then others.
I love children, but those younger years were tough. Especially when you have kids that are whiny and cranky a lot of the time. My children were pretty demanding.
It does get much easier as they age. I have an 18 year old who is very independent and moved out of the house already. My other two are 9 and 11. Now that my kids are older and less demanding, I can focus my attention more on my husband. We now have one one one time together just about every single night for at least an hour. We didn't have that before.
My husband works very hard too. In fact- for 7 years, he worked 3 jobs to pay the bills. His choice of course. His 2 part time jobs paid well for being part time and really helped. My husband recently got a nice promotion and was able to quit these 2 part time jobs. However, he still is just as busy if not busier working longer hours in the office. I'm looking forward to his schedule returning back to normal after he hires one more person in his department.
I love being a SAHM. I was never really planning on returning to work, which was discussed when my husband asked me to quit my job. Now I can't due to a neck injury and becoming disabled. Since I broke my neck, it slowed my life down almost to a halt. I use to run 36 miles a week to walking a few hundred feet. At least I can walk. My husband stepped up his support to me and it wasn't until then how selfish I felt for not realizing how much effort he puts into our marriage. Plus, I realized he always has put my needs before his own. We always have had a strong marriage, but it's now even stronger on a deeper level then before. When the kids were young, he'd take over at night, so I could exercise or go in another room if I needed a break. I don't need a break from them once they grew out of the toddler stage.
It's amazing, not once have I ever heard a complaint from my husband. He looks at life in such a positive way that it really changed me into doing the same. I try and work as hard as possible around the home. Of course I'll have my unbearable pain days and spend those days in bed. I've now found a hobby that has sparked a new interest in me last year. It keeps me up and moving everyday on top of the housework and cooking. My husband has always been that really nice guy, but it's what works for us. I count my blessings daily and show gratitude towards my husband.
If your wife is showing you disrespect, I agree with telling her in a loving way to stop. I also agree with letting her know how much you appreciate her ways of cooking, child rearing, and keeping up the house.
Once I started complimenting my husband and writing him letters/notes/ emails thanking him for what he does for us, he in return does the same. It really strengthened our marriage. We now even started flirting and fun teasing each other more. Good luck. Just remember that it is exhausting those first few years. After our youngest started school is when it got easier for us.