06-29-2012, 07:06 PM
Join Date: May 2010
| | Re: I was not looking...
Originally Posted by football
I'm not asking for permission to cheat. I don't want to cheat.
I'm confused by what has happened and I am seeking objective perspective on something that is emotional for me.
I am not one who believes that "marriage" trumps all else. I have lived long enough to know that things in life are not so simple.
It’s a total fallacy that there is only one person in the world for us and that when we’re married we’ll never feel deep and very strong attractions to another woman. It’s what we do in response to those feelings that either keep us as a faithful husband or turn us into an unfaithful husband.
If divorce for you really would be the disaster you claim it would be such that it is not an option, then why on earth are you messing about? Your course is clear, move past those feelings and leave them in the past where they belong.
Of course you could get in with the other woman and have an affair. Before you do that, go take a good long read in Coping with Infidelity
just to see the heartache you will most definitely be causing your wife and of course, if you do love your wife the pain you will be causing yourself.
Anyway, if you do not believe marriage should trump all else your marriage will most certainly fail at one time or another because you are simply not committed enough.