Mime

You can't say "ad hominem". We're not arguing a point with you here. We're calling you on your BS.

football

BS as in I'm making this up? Or BS as in you have a different perspective?

karma*girl

It does appear that you're trying to stir things up here, football.
This is a PRO-marriage forum & most everyone will be in support of saving your marriage..although you seem to not want to hear any of it. Further, you are not open to help or suggestions, which is a red flag.. not to mention, very immature.
..so go ahead & find another forum with groups that support infidelity..because its clear that if you aren't BS, you are just feebly attempting to get validation for your lack of man-hood.
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football

That explains it. Though you seemed to be even-handed.

karma*girl

I was..until the thread carried on the way it has.
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SadSamIAm

Just don't cheat on your wife Football.

If you want to date others, divorce your wife first.

I am sure this new girl will be as perfect as you believe.

Mime

You're making it up. You know it, and I know it.

football

Mime, I assure you I am not making this up. Why would I waste my time doing so? The fact is, that I have no one that I can speak to about this. It's consuming me and I have no way to get any feedback. So it's helpful for me to have a forum where I can discuss it.

AFEH

It’s a total fallacy that there is only one person in the world for us and that when we’re married we’ll never feel deep and very strong attractions to another woman. It’s what we do in response to those feelings that either keep us as a faithful husband or turn us into an unfaithful husband.

If divorce for you really would be the disaster you claim it would be such that it is not an option, then why on earth are you messing about? Your course is clear, move past those feelings and leave them in the past where they belong.

Of course you could get in with the other woman and have an affair. Before you do that, go take a good long read in Coping with Infidelity just to see the heartache you will most definitely be causing your wife and of course, if you do love your wife the pain you will be causing yourself.

Anyway, if you do not believe marriage should trump all else your marriage will most certainly fail at one time or another because you are simply not committed enough.

Mime

Yeah, sure you are.

You joined an anonymous internet forum so that you could tell a bunch of total strangers that some strange woman hit on you and you're all in a dither about it... like we care...

You didn't join to talk about your marriage. You joined to talk about yourself.

Get over yourself.

football

I posted in "The Men's Clubhouse". I didn't think I was going to be ripped to shreds for discussing something that has been tormenting me. I understand now that you only tolerate people who believe marriage is the be all and end all of civilization... You could be a tad civil about it.

Mime

And I understand now why your wife, (if you have one), is so negative.

anchorwatch

Take a deep breath and read AFEH post to you.

Some of us can be harsh and blunt, when it seems someone doesn't show respect for their spouse. We only go off what you write. If its not complete, you get what you get.

football

Mime, you have been on this board for 10 days. That's 9 more than me. And you have taken it upon yourself to become the lead antagonist in a forum that you clearly do not like. Why?

Mime

Haven't you got bigger problems than that, hmmmm?

You're pissed because I didn't get sucked into your story. Deal with it.