06-28-2012, 08:29 PM
Join Date: Apr 2012
| | Re: I was not looking...
I may sound 'new agey' here, but I don't care.
Stop for a moment & understand that people & circumstances come to us for reasons that we sometimes cannot understand at first..emotions clouding judgement.
Because you are experiencing your 'downs' in your marriage right now, you're more vulnerable & seeing the situation for much more than it is.
This conversation you had with her & the feelings it brought up, are all clues that it's, no doubt, time that you figure out what you're missing in your relationship...
People come into our lives to teach us things- this other woman is present in your life first because you're allowing her to be, (which btw, isn't contributing to a marriage upswing anytime soon..)
and because it's a test for you..once you figure out what you need to do, she will move on & rightfully so.
The purpose of her is to blatantly show you what your marriage needs in order to be fulfilling.. It is so striking to you because someone somewhere is yelling at you trying to get you to pay attention to your real relationship. Listen & be open to what the lesson is here.
Take a minute to reflect on why you believe she is better for you than your wife & use that knowledge & energy in a positive way. Redirect it back into your marriage & figure things out together.
Chances are, if you are having doubts, she is very aware of it.. she cannot be happy with you right now.
Your wife is your priority. She deserves to know her marriage is probably not what she thinks it is.
Be a man & make it right.
Best of Luck!
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