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Old 09-19-2012, 08:27 PM   #106 (permalink)
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And Id still want to screw other women and watch her with other guys. But that is how we define our 18 year marriage.
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Old 09-19-2012, 09:14 PM   #107 (permalink)
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if your wife gave you sex every day, as many times a day as you like, was in to doing and trying ANYTHING you wanted (except inviting other people into the bedroom), wore sexy outfits for you, etc - would you still feel the urge to watch porn and masturbate?

Actually, it has little or nothing to do with "getting sex" and a lot to do with being emotionally isolated or deprived.

Sex is relevant, but being in a reasonably healthy relationship pretty much removes any interest (other than perhaps a vaguely voyeuristic "huh, wonder what (blah)" thought now and then. Must add in my case, that if I don't have sex (for whatever reason) that every two to three weeks, yeah, have to actively "unload" or things get painful.
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Old 09-19-2012, 09:25 PM   #108 (permalink)
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Actually, it has little or nothing to do with "getting sex" and a lot to do with being emotionally isolated or deprived.

Sex is relevant, but being in a reasonably healthy relationship pretty much removes any interest (other than perhaps a vaguely voyeuristic "huh, wonder what (blah)" thought now and then. Must add in my case, that if I don't have sex (for whatever reason) that every two to three weeks, yeah, have to actively "unload" or things get painful.
I kinda agree with you. The more emotionally isolated one is the more one is going to seek out to fill in the gap. however people are animals and in such we want to procreate and therefore spread our seed or seek out potential positive sperm donors.
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Old 09-20-2012, 04:11 AM   #109 (permalink)
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lol about the prostate cancer and sperm damage. If you are having regular sex with your souse, you are not in danger of that.
"Sorry darling, it is just to prevent prostate cancer." Not very romantic.

I believe that everyone has the right to masturbate. You would have to be very insecure to be threatened by it.
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Old 09-20-2012, 04:13 AM   #110 (permalink)
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Nah, I wouldn't need porn if that happened. lol. I don't watch a whole lot of porn anyways. My wife is pretty cool most of the time.
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Old 09-20-2012, 04:20 AM   #111 (permalink)
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Interesting...

So without it, you are saying you would/might cheat?

Not accusing, honestly. Just asking.
Yes, it is possible. I seem to be cyclical, I have times of my life when I just seem to be ogling any woman I see in the street and thinking about sex with them constantly. At those times I up my 'masturbatory regime' to control the thoughts and get it out of my system.

We have not evolved to be monogamous, not men nor women. Women have evolved to find a steady, caring father as a mate and have occasional sex with a high testosterone bad-boy with a strong jaw. Men have evolved to have sex with as many breeding-age women as they can. We both have to compromise.

Of course that compromise is worth it for the love and companionship that we receive, but the physical need doesn't go away just because we are in love. That is where masturbation comes in.

To ask your husband not to masturbate is unrealistic and unfair. Masturbation is a healthy outlet, why cut it offf? What possible reason could you have?
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Old 09-20-2012, 04:26 PM   #112 (permalink)
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"Sorry darling, it is just to prevent prostate cancer." Not very romantic.

I believe that everyone has the right to masturbate. You would have to be very insecure to be threatened by it.
I believe that too, however sex is best, and we both try and have that as much as possible, only masturbating as a last resort. And even then it's usually during phone sex etc.

We also focus on each other (not others), and we have very regular awesome, sex.
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Old 09-20-2012, 05:18 PM   #113 (permalink)
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i probably would i am sexually compulsive especially with porn.
but it would be less than now. which isn't much to begin with.
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Old 09-20-2012, 08:16 PM   #114 (permalink)
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I think masturbation is only really a problem when it robs you of your desire for your wife or done at the worst times, or when you do it instead of initiating sex with her. Like right now I haven't had sex since yesterday afternoon and I'm finally alive and horny - and my wife isn't exactly in the right mindset for sex after last night. But I know that if I masturbate now, it'll definitely p-ss her off.
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Old 09-20-2012, 10:33 PM   #115 (permalink)
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Brutal honesty:

I have been with a fair amount of women and have never met one who would consistantly want to have sex every day so that to me seems more like a hypothetical.

Even if that were the case i think i would still want to rub one out to some t and a once in a while.
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Old 09-21-2012, 07:37 AM   #116 (permalink)
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I believe that too, however sex is best, and we both try and have that as much as possible, only masturbating as a last resort. And even then it's usually during phone sex etc.

We also focus on each other (not others), and we have very regular awesome, sex.
In my mind sex with my wife and masturbation don't compete for the same space. They serve different purposes.

No-one can expect their partner to want sex whenever they need to get off. Masturbating, instead of expecting your partner to have sex when he or she doesn't feel like it, is more loving and considerate.

I think it is selfish to expect your partner to act as a tool to get you off whenever you need it. Sex should happen only when both are in the mood otherwise it becomes exploitative.
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Old 09-21-2012, 08:31 AM   #117 (permalink)
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In my mind sex with my wife and masturbation don't compete for the same space. They serve different purposes.

No-one can expect their partner to want sex whenever they need to get off. Masturbating, instead of expecting your partner to have sex when he or she doesn't feel like it, is more loving and considerate.

I think it is selfish to expect your partner to act as a tool to get you off whenever you need it. Sex should happen only when both are in the mood otherwise it becomes exploitative.


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