do men fantasize about other women while having sex with their wifes? (either a real life woman, movie star, porn star, etc)
or do you fantasize about some sexual scene you have recently seen in a porno while having sex with your wife?
okey dokie, yes, I am trying to understand the male mind! It's hard to get straight answers out of my hubby because i think he doesn't want to hurt my fellings. so i thought this would be a great place to see the male perspective in an open forum where men have no need to hide the truth
I don't really see what you get from indulging in a fantasy when you've got your wife right there. If there were something I'd seen or read or somehow heard about somewhere that I wanted to try, well, I'd just suggest the idea to my wife and we could toss it back and forth to see what that ball might land.
No, I do not fantasize. My wife is my fantasy in the bedroom, so there's a problem I've never had to worry about.
As a general rule, I do not fantasize about others while we are doing the deed. Sometimes, during a role play, I try to imagine my wife as someone else, but not anyone specific. More like the character she is playing.
Now when I am by myself and/or masturbating, I definitely can and have fantasized about others, but in most cases, I am thinking about my wife, and things we have done, or I would like us to do.
Very rarely... and I've done it a couple different ways. Sometimes, like when I'm really drunk, I have difficulty climaxing... too long isn't fun at all. So, if focusing on her and the sex isn't doing it (and that normally works), I might indulge a mental fantasy.
And sometimes when I want to last longer, I might focus my attention on something 'less desireable' to hold out a bit longer.
And like Keeper, when masturbating, I will often think of others. This is something rather new because I'm trying to work on myself so I 'tone down' seeing my wife as a sexual object... (this is something she doesn't want to feel).. You can't eat your cake. So you can't get 'mad' about me fantasizing about others, AND don't really want me 'objectifying' you as a sex toy... Regardless, I still have the same urges and thoughts at the same frequency. So, my reaction is to associate others with sexual thoughts......
do men fantasize about other women while having sex with their wifes? (either a real life woman, movie star, porn star, etc)
or do you fantasize about some sexual scene you have recently seen in a porno while having sex with your wife?
No matter how much porn, strippers, hot girls on the beach, her hottest girlfriends or <insert sexy, provocative woman here>; I have never fantasized about another woman during sex. I (and I suspect many men) just don't have the imaginative powers that women possess to be able to pull that off.
ok, i have a wierd question here... sometimes when we are doing it "doggystyle" i will look back and notice he is kindof staring off into space and i always thought he was fantasizing about other women since he is not looking at me. could this just be a way of distracting his mind so he can last longer?
ok, i have a wierd question here... sometimes when we are doing it "doggystyle" i will look back and notice he is kindof staring off into space and i always thought he was fantasizing about other women since he is not looking at me. could this just be a way of distracting his mind so he can last longer?
It is a very likely/probable answer to your question
ok, i have a wierd question here... sometimes when we are doing it "doggystyle" i will look back and notice he is kindof staring off into space and i always thought he was fantasizing about other women since he is not looking at me. could this just be a way of distracting his mind so he can last longer?
Probably. But then I'm a bit bias - cause given the opportunity to stare at a woman's ass...well, deer in headlights comes to mind.
ok, i have a wierd question here... sometimes when we are doing it "doggystyle" i will look back and notice he is kindof staring off into space and i always thought he was fantasizing about other women since he is not looking at me. could this just be a way of distracting his mind so he can last longer?
There is not much to look at back there! I wouldn't worry about it if it is isn't an issue in other positions and you are both still enjoying the whole show.
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do you fantasize about other women? 
