Re: How would I know if my husband is gay or bi-curious?
Song, my first comment was probably a little insensitive, I meant it to be a little lighthearted but seems like this is a troubling situation... I am a straight man but have been at times frustrated with my sex life, and towards the end of my marriage I found myself a little open minded about the other direction on the spectrum, I have not acted on it, but gave gay porn a view, it didn't do anything for me to see other men, however the thought of phallic shapes and mens organs was really creating some kind of deep urge.
At the time I also was pretty much in an entirely submissive frame of mind. I have never acted on it, nor really felt any compulsion to, however out of curiosity I did explore it in a bit of a voyeuristic way.
For me the subissiveness has largely gone away, but there is still something about phallic symbols (perhaps my own) that I fantasize about - I have no intent to make any such fantasy reality. When I say I am sexually attracted to women I mean it, and the frustration of not getting the type of sex you want or having sexual frustration does bizarre things to a man's psyche. Perhaps your H is just trying to explore this, but just because he is do not believe that it means his attraction to you is lessened or harmed in anyway. What is the rest of the communication like between you two?