07-25-2012, 02:56 PM
Join Date: Jul 2012
| | How to ask wife if she is BiCurious/Bisexual?
I'm a newbie to the forums, but I have an issue or concern or I might be blowing this all out of wack.
But I was wondering how I would ask my wife if she is bicurious or bisexual without her blowing up, crying her eyes out or thinking I will judge her. I was hoping that someone else has had experience with this. I would like responses from both sides rather if its the men who asked the question or women who got asked by their men. I have asked her jokingly and she said no and that she's strickly ****ly, but shes the type that would hold the truth in order to not hurt anyone feelings or be afraid that I would judge her.
My reasoning for inquiring..we have been married for 10 yrs, 2 kids. She has a group of female friends 5 of them (all co-workers), out of the 5 my wife is the only one who is married or has a man as far as I know. 1 lady in the group is a Lesbian (been one for years) They all dont hang out all the time, but they do have lunch every other month or so. I understand the working relationship between my wife and the one who's a lesbian (we will call her "Bee"). They all recently went to Vegas together for one of the girls bday in the beginning of June. Since they have been back..my wife only talks to Bee when she's not around me. For instance, on her way home from work they talk for about 20min on (4 different occasions). When she volunteers to go to get something to eat alone..she calls her (on 3 different occasions) When they text each other, she delete the messages right away. and this is since June of this year?
Ive had suspicion before they all went on the trip, because my wife is all giddy when shes around Bee. And Bee is known to "Convert" women if thats possible. When I once joked with my wife about Bee liking her before they went on the trip..she got very offended, to me it was "too offended" like a guilt so to say.
I'm not really upset if she is bicurious or bisexual. But I would be more upset if she was hiding it..I am very open-minded so I dont fringe upon bisexuality/lesbian..etc. Do whatever makes you happy. But I dont want her to be emotionally supressed. But just want her to be honest when I ask her too. So any suggestions on how to ask my wife if she is curious or etc? I'm all open to suggestions.
Thanks in advance.