So with all the many problems I keep having in my marriage and the fact I am very very unhappy, is it normal to be fantasizing about a new life and a new love with someone else someday?
I do it all the time. Then again I recognize it as a fantasy and a nice mental escape from reality. I also fantasize about having spiderman's powers... So, I don't base decisions on fantasy.
I could leave. I chose not to. What I don't like, I change myself (and that is the opposite of telling my wife to do it and dumping it on her). So....... choose. What would you like to change?
I fantasize about it also,, but with my track record, I feel I would handle dating like a job interview,, I would be too skeptical.
Especially from being on here, and knowing so many signs to look for. But I'm hoping that would actually help me. In the past, I have not chose wisely.
I did this in my first marriage a lot towards the end when it was a total nightmare and I did get a divorce eventually, and now I find myself doing it all over again in my 2nd marriage. *sigh*
I think it is part of the decision process. If what the spouse has done is so terrible that you just want to be rid of her at all costs, it is an easy decision to D. But if there are good things and bad things, it is a difficult decision whether one is better off staying or D'ing.
Ours is just a marriage where we are just not getting along most of the time now and always arguing, and I don't think I can take another 1 - 2 - or 20 years of this without some sort of solution taking place.
Sorry to hear that. What do you argue about? I would look for solutions rather than escape into fantasy. Also, second marriage failure,...Have you looked at your role in this? Maybe a little introspection and IC is in order.
What haven't we argued about. And yes my role in all of this is being quick tempered and having no patience which I'm working on; and in my first marriage I ended up with someone who was bi-polar and had an equal temper to mine, and now in my second one I thought I married someone who was laid back and easy going(which is what I need)............but I was wrong.
After being hurt over and over by my ex I began fantasizing constantly.it was the only time i didn't feel the pain.eventually i turned those fantasies into reality,gave up on R and walked out.
my fantasies never involved new love though.just new life.
Yeah me too; my fantasies in both marriages involve more than just a new life with someone who understands me and loves me un-conditionally, but also involve me just getting back some of the peace and serenity that I used to have.
Yes, I do it. More and more now that I try to be aware when I interact with women, and pick up on their attraction/interest.
Status
Not open for further replies.
You have insufficient privileges to reply here.
Related Threads
?
?
?
?
?
Talk About Marriage
4.9M posts
105.3K members
Since 2007
A forum community dedicated to married life between you and your spouse. Come join the discussion about love, romance, health, behavior, conflict resolution, care, and more!