08-15-2012, 10:14 AM
Join Date: Sep 2009
| | Re: Being friends with cheaters
“Birds of a feather flock together.” A way to tell how someone IS, is to look at the company they keep. And I hate to point this out, but studies show its true... I believe its one of the statistics in “Just Friends” that those who have friendships with cheaters are more likely to cheat themselves.
So there is validity in distancing yourself from people who’d support infidelity regardless of ‘how unique’ their situation is. They can still justify it and you are accepting that it’s “ok for them” to do this selling yourself the idea that ‘it doesn’t involve you or your friendship’. What happens when say your wife starts buying into that idea and decides her and her new ‘friend’ have nothing to do with, or doesn’t involve you like its something ‘separate’ and isolated from her other relationships (like yours with her)? Compartmentalization at its finest when you can decide that things fit in boxes instead of being inter-woven in a very complex web called ‘your life’.