Re: Help.. Read bothersome emails
I think you have 2 questions that must be cleared up, and someone already mentioned one of them... 1) What traits do these guys have that drives your wife wild and that you are lacking? 2) Would she be willing to lose this client in order to save her marriage?
Considering you've overheard your wife on the phone, I think that is an easy enough to have the "Come to Jesus" talk with her over this inappropriate infatuation with this much older client. Of course, you can pull a 180 on her and start getting yourself into shape (if you let yourself go), change your looks and distancing yourself from her a little. Cut her off from some of your emotional support. But I'd also let her know that you know that she obsesses over this older man and that she needs to make a choice - you or him. Even if she thinks it's trivial, you need to convince her that this is extremely important to you. Start demanding that she recognizes you as her lover first and foremost, and if she can't do that then she needs to learn what she will be throwing away by trivializing you.