to my husband, if I was not very attractive? It's okay, please be honest! (:
I always thought that men were impressed by talent, intelligence, a sense of humor, ability to nurture, etc...& that all those were just as important as physical beauty.
I am learning..please correct me if I am wrong, that what matters most is that we are above-all, attractive to you, physically...everything else is extra?
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Bubbly fun girl with 5 looks, to me, is better than dull girl with 9 looks. But it's true that the personality can only take you so far for initial attraction. And lets face it, it's pretty hard to get deeper without the initial attraction. So, bubbly fun girl with 2 looks? Probably not going to happen.
Obviously, bubbly fun girl with 9 looks would trump....
Intelligent is important, more so than the degree.
Post your picture in the picture thread and we'll tell you how you stack up!
You could look like Cheryl Cole but if you have a personality of a plank of wood I doubt he'd stick around.
My wife is very attractive, but if looks were most important I would have fell in love right away instead of it taking months of getting to know her amazing personality.
What is true for me and the guys I know well:
- we have a threshold
- below that we won't do a ltr or marriage with you
- at or above that threshold you become "possible" and everything else drives our feelings
I date ed women more attractive than my wife. And she dated men hotter than me.
I never dated anyone as clever, quick witted, funny in a semi-blthcy way. Not even close.
She was crazily adventurous and also responsible. Go try finding THAT combination.
At 50 I still crave her. What you call extra I call core.
OTE=karma*girl;1015575]to my husband, if I was not very attractive? It's okay, please be honest! (:
I always thought that men were impressed by talent, intelligence, a sense of humor, ability to nurture, etc...& that all those were just as important as physical beauty.
I am learning..please correct me if I am wrong, that what matters most is that we are above-all, attractive to you, physically...everything else is extra?
Thanks for your thoughts! Posted via Mobile Device[/QUOTE] Posted via Mobile Device
I don't think I've ever known a guy who particularly cared about a woman's college transcripts, so I'd probably bump that off the list. Personally, I'm drawn to practical women. Pragmatists. Of course, being hot never hurts.
to my husband, if I was not very attractive? It's okay, please be honest! (:
I always thought that men were impressed by talent, intelligence, a sense of humor, ability to nurture, etc...& that all those were just as important as physical beauty.
I am learning..please correct me if I am wrong, that what matters most is that we are above-all, attractive to you, physically...everything else is extra?
Thanks for your thoughts!
Looks are definitely not everything because if they were, I doubt any guy would want to be with me. I have a few large scars on my body from surgeries that aren't exactly "sexy" looking and in the past actually scared off some lame guys I had dated. My husband loves my body, but more importantly loves me because of my personality and who I am.
The old saying, No matter how good lookin you think you are, someone, somewhere, cannot stand the sight of you. Its very true
Some people are superficial and are mainly concerned with socially acceptable beauty and body types. Mostly younger people. But as we mature, we realize, that looks fade, bodies sag and what your left with is your character. Your personality. Your goodness inside.
To the OP, im not sure of the reason for this thread, are you feeling insecure for some reason??
No, not feeling insecure, just curious about how much the personality traits actually stack up to looks. I was browsing the MMSL forum & so much over there is about 'how attractive' a woman is & what her sex rank is that it made me wonder if other positive attributes mattered much.
Thank you all for your insight...always good to be reminded we are loved for so much more!
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I'm sure every guy is different. I think we all want someone that we find physically attractive, but for me, that doesn't mean they have to look like a super model. I see a lot of women that I'm not attracted to, but I rarely see a woman that i think is ugly. I just "click" with some, and others I don't.
I like a "sweet, bubbly, down-to-earth" personality in a woman, and always have. As for intelligence, I hear that mentioned a lot, and I'm sure people measure it differently. I have a college degree and a white collar job, but I'm not interested in a woman's diploma. If I'm with a woman, I'm not interested in talking about the stock market, global warming, and politics. Whether or not a woman leaves every morning with a brief case or a McDonald's uniform on, really doesn't matter to me.
I see some women and at my work and it's difficult for me to even imagine them being romantic. I wonder if they ever just like to sit in the swing and hold hands after dark, or watch a good movie together, or are they so "professional" minded that they think that stuff is nonsense?
I personally think women who are the sweet type are adorable.
To give a celebrity example, if i could find a woman with the personality of Kellie Pickler, I could certainly picture myself having a good time around her.
If he is a good man it would. I do not think so highly of a lot of people so i would say they are fueled by there own selfish needs and my proof in that is to look around and observe how people destroy themselves.
I place a lot of value on a woman who is good, sweet, nurturing, has high morals and has goals.
First of all BEAUTY IS IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER!! So, what I call a 5 someone else might call a 8-9.
I'll reiterate there is a point.....I personally would not be interested in a woman too heavy say 180lbs no matter how proportionate.
Too add my .02 my wife and I have been together for 20 years and while not as HOT I'm as happy as ever!! Looks fade that's where the real bond comes in at.
Men are visual creatures. I could care less how confident or intelligent a woman is in all honesty. These things are (presumably) more important to women. It's part of the reason why you see women have relationships with men 10-20 years older than them. Men? hardly.
Smart is fine. Extroverted noissy funny can be a bit much. Guys do not want to compete with a girl.
Today's culture pushes women to be like men and many women believe that the more "sucsessful" they are the more attractive they are to men. It doesn't work that way.
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Will my degree & bubbly personality matter.. 
Whether or not a woman leaves every morning with a brief case or a McDonald's uniform on, really doesn't matter to me.
