I am 45, my wife is 29. We have been married for 3 years, and known each other for 8. We have twin 6 year olds -one very minding and one that is not. I have a couple questions:
1) I spent $25K for her to go to school for a certified respiratory therapist cert. She graduated 6 months ago and have failed the exam twice. I have told her she needs to do whatever she needs to and pass the test, and I will support her. She is not motivated, and I know - as I work from home and she studies 1 day a week and does not stay up to study. I have told her we need the $. I am questioning her commitment to complete this task and work. what is the best way to get her to focus and pass, so that she can get a job?
2) In the past, she always mad me the disciplinarian. At this point, my girls do not listen to her and I always have to intervene. This occurs at all hours, even when I am working in my home office. She has now started to be more assertive, but it is yelling, threatening, and telling them what a bad person they will be later in life if they not not listen. I have talked to her about it, but she is now mad at me for disciplining her. I told her she needs to be more hand on (ask for their hand and lead them where she wants them to go and help with what she wants them to do). How do I help her get in control?
3) Not sure if this a posting about me or her. But I am the sole person bringing in $. Day usually is. We get up, I help minimally to max with getting the girls dressed, hair and teeth, and breakfast. She gets up and takes a shower and participates after wards; takes them to school at 8 and then does nothing to help to get things done around the house. When the girls get out of Kgarten, she picks them up and does an outstanding job of keeping them busy until 5-7pm. After 5, I do laundry, dishes, and clean the house. 7pm comes up and no dinner for the girls. What point of helping am I not getting across?
4) How do you communicate with someone that if they do not focus on supporting the family, the family may not be exsting in the near future?
1) I spent $25K for her to go to school for a certified respiratory therapist cert. She graduated 6 months ago and have failed the exam twice. I have told her she needs to do whatever she needs to and pass the test, and I will support her. She is not motivated, and I know - as I work from home and she studies 1 day a week and does not stay up to study. I have told her we need the $. I am questioning her commitment to complete this task and work. what is the best way to get her to focus and pass, so that she can get a job?
2) In the past, she always mad me the disciplinarian. At this point, my girls do not listen to her and I always have to intervene. This occurs at all hours, even when I am working in my home office. She has now started to be more assertive, but it is yelling, threatening, and telling them what a bad person they will be later in life if they not not listen. I have talked to her about it, but she is now mad at me for disciplining her. I told her she needs to be more hand on (ask for their hand and lead them where she wants them to go and help with what she wants them to do). How do I help her get in control?
3) Not sure if this a posting about me or her. But I am the sole person bringing in $. Day usually is. We get up, I help minimally to max with getting the girls dressed, hair and teeth, and breakfast. She gets up and takes a shower and participates after wards; takes them to school at 8 and then does nothing to help to get things done around the house. When the girls get out of Kgarten, she picks them up and does an outstanding job of keeping them busy until 5-7pm. After 5, I do laundry, dishes, and clean the house. 7pm comes up and no dinner for the girls. What point of helping am I not getting across?
4) How do you communicate with someone that if they do not focus on supporting the family, the family may not be exsting in the near future?