Agast84

I have planned a vacation with just my wife and myself. We have had some issues in the past as far as intimacy goes( all aspects), I am interested to see how the lack of kids and needless stress will effect her as well as what it will do to me. I really want to state that my intention is to focus on us as a couple. In other words, "date", be friends, drink, cuddle, flirt...all the stuff that slowly fizzled no matter what I did.
However, in case it goes the route of her wanting to do things, how do I handle this? I kinda feel like a born-again virgin as far as that stuff goes. Haha.I have not done anything with anyone in 2 years. I believe I came off to her as pushy and needy in this department, in the past. Any advice on how to handle everything?

CanadianGuy

Sounds cool. What kind of vacation ? Destination/Hotel or Cruise, bus tour, camping?

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Before I got married I said to my wife that I would make all the major decisions and she would be allowed to make all the minor decisions in our marriage. Thankfully up to this point I haven't had to make any major decisions.

Liam

I say just try your best to relax, laugh together and just enjoy wherever you are and each other's company. I'd say there's a pretty good chance the rest will follow. Good luck and have a great time

Agast84

We are going to a B&B/Spa near a beach.( she has no idea where or what, just when

CanadianGuy

Nice. How long will you be staying?

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Before I got married I said to my wife that I would make all the major decisions and she would be allowed to make all the minor decisions in our marriage. Thankfully up to this point I haven't had to make any major decisions.

Agast84

Thanks, Liam.
That has been working slowly when we have been around each other. Man this is a slow process.

anchorwatch

Agast, May I suggest you add a sightseeing day trip or light events to your daily itinerary. It's always nice just to sun on the beach but have a plan in case too much idle time becomes awkward. Just something to keep in mind. Be relaxed and enjoy the trip and each others company. Have fun.

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Agast84

A few days,maybe. Definitely more than one.

Agast84

Also, had that in mind.
Designing a plan the closer it gets.

oldgeezer

Low stress, minimal entertainment opportunities, and doing stuff that has absolutely no priorities over you. No timetable or schedule - that park or beach or lighthouse or wilderness or museum or whatever will STILL be there in a day, two days, or a decade... Nothing to distract from being with each other.

That's my suggestion. If she's bored out of her skull with that, man, you're in a heap of hurt.

Agast84

She shouldn't be too bored. She loves being outside. It is kinda of an adventure, it is a place we have never been, but close to some familiar towns.