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post #46 of 53 (permalink) Old 12-12-2016, 12:44 PM
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post #50 of 53 (permalink) Old 12-18-2016, 02:28 PM
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My thoughts is he's not insecure about how you dress, he's insecure about himself and having to compete with the attention you get.

I encouraged my wife to dress sexy. I much prefer to walk into a room with a hot woman than someone dressed frumpy and conservative.

Of course now having recently discovered my wife's affair, my thoughts may have changed.

I know she didn't cheat because some guy saw her and thought she was hot...she cheated because of some long term emotional bond she had with this man. Im not a woman so I can't really think like one but my guess is if some guy walked up to you and said something like "hey sexy, that skirt really shows off your a$$ and legs really well wanna f#@k?" you would throw your drink in his face and run the other way. However, if you connect with another man on an emotional level it could lead to more.

I guess my point is your husband views women who dress sexy as ****s and of course thats hardly ever the case. What you need to do with your husband is insure that your not only dressing sexy for yourself, but for HIM too.
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post #52 of 53 (permalink) Old 12-18-2016, 11:08 PM
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My STBXH used to comment about the way I dressed and my makeup so much that he got the best of me and I stopped wearing makeup, jewelry and any clothes that I actually liked. I just wore comfy stuff that had no appeal and made me feel like a frumpy old rag. Now that he's gone, I am dressing a little bit better and now the comments are starting again. Gotta hot date? Stuff like he used to say that made me stop dressing the way I wanted. I guess that's one good thing about him being so far away. He doesn't see how I dress now. I'd like to get back to wearing makeup and jewelry. He's trying to control you. Don't let him. Unless you're dressing like a tramp (doesn't seem that way), keep dressing how you want. And, wear makeup if you want, too.
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Re: Husband insecure about the way I dress

Zombie thread? Who cares, still relevant to anybody searching for this topic. The questions and responses don't have a best-before date. Not sure why people get worked up over this sort of thing, unless they're expecting more info from the OP or something.

In any case, ex wife used to dress pretty frumpy pre-gym rat days. Baggy sweaters, looser fit jeans, etc. Once she got fit, it was low-cut, tight-fitting jeans, low-cut, tight-fitting shirts, push-up bras, etc. And a LOT of time spent on makeup and hair, even just to go to the store. Didn't bother me one bit, she looked good, TBH. But it went to her head, and she relished the attention she got from it - so much so that she'd even tell me all about it... sigh.

But there's a difference between her and what OP said, IMO. OP seems like she always dressed like that, and doesn't do it for the attention - she simply likes clothes. It also doesn't sound like she dresses all that 'sexy', anyway - she just dresses for her body type, and how she likes.

It's a double-edged sword, if you ask me. If it's clearly being done to 'show off', then it's an issue. If your wife/girlfriend likes clothing and dresses for her body, then chill out. You don't own her, and if it makes you uncomfortable, the problem is with you, not her. If her resulting M.O. or ensuing ACTIONS make you uncomfortable, that's another story.

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