Re: Need help w/ husbands fetish
This sounds to me like the same problem as when struggling with pornography in a marriage. Without making excuses for him, he has an addiction to something that is not easily overcome. This is especially true since it is so easy to regress with content being so easily accessable.
He will need help...from you, from trusted guy friends/mentors, and from software that will help remove the easy access (like Covenant Eyes). If he wants to fight it, he needs to find two trusted guys that will help hold him accountable. They can also play a part with Covenant Eyes, which requires accountability partners. Even then, it will be a struggle.
I don't see your part as holding him accountable, although if you find evidence of him wandering I don't think you should feel bad about bringing it to light. He may lash out, so try and respond in love and concern.
For me, it was not enough to simply try and obstain from satisfying my addiction. I had to replace it with something stronger and more positive. I firmly believe that Scripture has answers for everything, and this case is no different. In the fourth chapter of Philippians, it teaches that the way to avoid wrong behavior is by replacing thoughts with things that are good (vs. 8). You may not believe in the Bible, but the principle can still be applied. Whenever he thinks thoughts that lead him toward safisying his urges, he should replace those thoughts with other positive thoughts (you, his family, helping others, etc.)
Obviously, this has to be something he wants to do and will be faithful in trying. He will not be perfect, but hopefully will struggle less and less as he overcomes. I personally do not subscribe to the theory that you can satisfy his wanderings (sorry, makeyourwifehot). I think that will only compound the problem and result in you growing more hurt and resentful when it doesn't satisfy him. Not to say you can't incorporate feet in your relations, but don't expect that to keep him from straying. They are separate issues.
Blessings to you...