Boxers or briefs
 Talk About Marriage
  The Marriage Advice and Relationship Help Forums
  right
Forums - For Therapists - Link to Us - Advertise  

    A Public Forum Provided by The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory
Register FAQ Community Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read

The Men's Clubhouse Talk about life's dilemmas.

Like Tree36Likes

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old 01-01-2013, 09:23 AM   #1 (permalink)
Member
 
Luonnotar's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Michigan
Posts: 195
Default Boxers or briefs

Okay, I'm not a guy and never been one. But I have a 13 year old son with a dilemma. He says the guys at school are making fun of him for wearing briefs (this is in gym class, he doesn't normally flash his undies).
Do guys really do things like this? I didn't think guys cared about clothes and stuff.
And so I took him out and discovered there are TONS of different types of undies for guys. Boxers, briefs, boxer briefs, bikini, you name it.
What can I safely buy a 13 year old to spare him embarrassment.

And more importantly, how the heck do guys feel comfy in boxers????
__________________
I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.
― Marilyn Monroe
Luonnotar is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Old 01-01-2013, 09:30 AM   #2 (permalink)
Member
 
Shoto1984's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Fla
Posts: 1,771
Default Re: Boxers or briefs

He's 13. Let him tell you what underwear he's comfortable in. If he's getting teased he's going to buy what the rest of the guys are wearing.

As for me, boxers are fine for sleeping but do nothiing for me otherwise.
Shoto1984 is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 01-01-2013, 09:31 AM   #3 (permalink)
Member
 
Homemaker_Numero_Uno's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 3,863
Default Re: Boxers or briefs

You buy him whatever it is he wants to wear.
At 13, he is old enough to know what that is.
Doesn't he go shopping with you?
Guys do care about clothes. I never buy my 12 year old son any clothing without checking with him first.
Homemaker_Numero_Uno is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 01-01-2013, 09:35 AM   #4 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Britain
Posts: 7,632
Default Re: Boxers or briefs

It might be the style or type of undies rather than what they are.

Plain white or black briefs are fine by me, especially if they sort of enhance.

Pictures and patterns are a big no no for me.

I wear all types, but tend to steer clear of loose boxers in the summer as it can get uncomfortable against your leg.

Favourites for me are tight boxers and briefs.

What does he want? Is it a fashion thing? Maybe he wants to wear CK, diesel, armani?
WyshIknew is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 01-01-2013, 09:36 AM   #5 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Posts: 6,161
Default Re: Boxers or briefs

Guys she took him out and they are BOTH still confused. My guess is the kid is happy in briefs but doesn't want to be teased.

Stick to the question....what does she buy him? We're MOMS we don't know the difference in boy's/men's underwear. LOL

PS I'm taking notes because I have a 12 year old boy who still wears briefs. He hasn't complained yet but I have heard of this.
Mavash. is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 01-01-2013, 09:37 AM   #6 (permalink)
Member
 
Luonnotar's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Michigan
Posts: 195
Default Re: Boxers or briefs

I took him to the store the other day, and he kind of froze up in the underwear aisle. I'm not sure if it was a shopping for undies with mom thing or a not really knowing what to get thing.
Maybe I should just ask him to show me what everyone else seems to be wearing?
__________________
I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.
― Marilyn Monroe
Luonnotar is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 01-01-2013, 09:40 AM   #7 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Posts: 6,161
Default Re: Boxers or briefs

Can his dad take him? Or a favorite uncle maybe? My son will flat out tell me he prefers 'dad' for things like this than me.
Mavash. is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 01-01-2013, 09:40 AM   #8 (permalink)
Banned
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Britain
Posts: 7,632
Default Re: Boxers or briefs

Well this article confirms what I prefer, the tight boxer.

Choosing Your Underwear - AskMen
WyshIknew is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 01-01-2013, 09:47 AM   #9 (permalink)
Member
 
arbitrator's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Central Texas/Brazos Valley
Posts: 6,111
Default Re: Boxers or briefs

Same here! With two college age boys, I quit investing in taking my time in buying their clothing essentials years ago. And that dates back to when they were both at least 12.

When I was in my teens(late 60's/early 70's) and in the high school/collegiate athletic locker rooms, the trend then seemed to be toward the "tidy whities." But judging by the advent of time as well as the observance of my boys personal taste in their apparel, I would greatly think that that trend has now greatly shifted toward boxers.

In any event, just let your son take charge in choosing what he wants to wear! He knows himself and his preferences far better than you think you do!
__________________
"To love another person is to see the face of God!" - Jean Valjean from Les Miserables

My Story! http://talkaboutmarriage.com/going-t...andonment.html

Last edited by arbitrator; 01-01-2013 at 10:26 AM.
arbitrator is online now   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 01-01-2013, 09:50 AM   #10 (permalink)
Member
 
Luonnotar's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Michigan
Posts: 195
Default Re: Boxers or briefs

Quote:
Originally Posted by Mavash. View Post
Can his dad take him? Or a favorite uncle maybe? My son will flat out tell me he prefers 'dad' for things like this than me.
STBXH doesn't do this type of thing. Tried to send the OW out with son to buy jeans. Did not go over well.
__________________
I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.
― Marilyn Monroe
Luonnotar is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 01-01-2013, 09:56 AM   #11 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2012
Posts: 662
Default Re: Boxers or briefs

Until my son entered middle school, he was content to wear briefs or whatever I bought him. Then all the sudden (probably because of PE), the "tightey whiteys" would no longer do!

I took him to the store and let him pick what he wanted. He picked boxer-briefs in muted colors, like black, dark grey, etc. Absolutely won't wear white, bright colors, or anything with a print. Maybe the idea is that boxer-briefs are less like "panties" and cover more skin, and the muted colors draw less attention to them.
Waking up to life is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 01-01-2013, 09:59 AM   #12 (permalink)
Member
 
MrsOldNews's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2012
Posts: 371
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Luonnotar View Post
STBXH doesn't do this type of thing. Tried to send the OW out with son to buy jeans. Did not go over well.
Have him pick the kind out online and then go buy them alone.

I personally have never seen a man my age weir briefs. Usually boxer briefs. And when I went to highschool (graduated in 03) tighty whites were made fun of on a regular basis. Mean but true.
MrsOldNews is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 01-01-2013, 10:11 AM   #13 (permalink)
TBT
Member
 
TBT's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Canada
Posts: 5,500
Default Re: Boxers or briefs

If he has a choice he'll probably pick what everyone else is wearing.Young guys...locker rooms=trash talking.The more things change,the more they stay the same.
__________________
"Truth is like the sun,you can shut it out for a time,but it ain't going away"-Elvis
TBT is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 01-01-2013, 10:32 AM   #14 (permalink)
Member
 
arbitrator's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Central Texas/Brazos Valley
Posts: 6,111
Default Re: Boxers or briefs

Strange in how social mores seem to greatly dictate the undergarment market for young men.

But given the due course of time, however, those same young men will likely be moved even more by what their girlfriends/romantic interests think about what they might look better in!
__________________
"To love another person is to see the face of God!" - Jean Valjean from Les Miserables

My Story! http://talkaboutmarriage.com/going-t...andonment.html
arbitrator is online now   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 01-01-2013, 10:59 AM   #15 (permalink)
Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 445
Default Re: Boxers or briefs

You don't wear tighty whities after elementary school. Doesn't everybody know this? When I was that age in the early 90's we wore boxers. But then boxer briefs came along. I like them a lot better. So now it's probably boxers or boxer briefs.
east2west is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on Talk About Marriage, you must first register. Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.

Important! Your username will be visible to the public next to anything you post and could show up in search engines like Google. If you are concerned about anonymity, PLEASE choose a username that will not be recognizable to anyone you know.
User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off


Member Area

Find a Therapist:


Sponsor Ads


Sponsor Ads




Get The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory Help Guide via Email:
Name:
Email:




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 12:40 PM.



Copyright 2007 - 2013 © Talk About Marriage

SEO by vBSEO 3.6.0 PL2 ©2011, Crawlability, Inc.