Re: My wife said she's not attracted to me anymore?
I see a few similarites between your story and mine, Brian. While my wife never gave ultimatums, or criticized my appearance- I was overweight and I had lost my confidence as a result. The MMSL was essential for me as the MAP is pretty much an outline of how to get your sh*% together as a guy. It's pretty simple at the core- better yourself.
Your health is essential in this process, but you have to want it... no, you have to NEED it. If you can't commit to becoming the Brian you used to be, or NEED to be, well, then you will fail.... but, if you can taste it, and are willing to put in the effort and time- you can do it.
I hear you that money is an issue (when is it not?), but there are things you CAN do. As Tony mentioned, eat smarter and exercise. Broccoli and chicken are cheap. Running is free... well, provided you have some shorts and sneakers. You want something to do with your free time? Run!
I started my journey back in Oct 2011. Every day is another day forward. I've lost 75 pounds. When I started I could barely walk around the block, now I run 3-4 miles every weekday morning at 5am. I do a long run on Sat or Sun. I move forward.
My story if you care to read.