They start by teaching you the basic premise that to have a lasting monogamous happy marriage, you need to stay romantically in love. So they give you a bunch of new ideas to work on, where you learn how and why a couple become (and stay) romantically in love. You also learn why couples fall OUT of romantic love. Then you learn what behaviors you both should do (and not do) that helps keep you romantically in love with your spouse. Mostly this has to do with fulfilling each other's emotional needs
I sure agree with all of this
Gotta keep the Romance Aflame.
Thought I'd throw some articles on this here >> Keeping the Fire Alive in Your Marriage 14 Ways to Keep Romance Alive Little Things to Keep the Romance Alive after Marriage and Kids How to Keep Love Alive: 12 Principles for Nurturing Love in Your Marriage
Before I landed on TAM, I can't recall us ever having 1 discussion on "boundaries" with the opposite sex...it's just been something written on our hearts... We've always been very close/ Best friends who jump & share all with each other.....generally where he is.... I am... .where I am, there he is ! We do near everything together...that's what makes us happy. We've joked we Enjoy
"the ball & chain."
I never even cared for Girls Night Out, not my thing. He never cared to hang with the guys. So these things never needed any limit or boundary talk. Though we've done it on occasion...if we could, we'd probably bring each other!
All of our Opposite sex friends are equally BOTH our friends, none has ever disrespected that -though we've always been careful who we befriend or allow to our house... He has never cared if I talk to them on the phone, or whatnot. We have opposite sex friends on Facebook, it's never been an issue.
Some may feel that is too much freedom...and maybe it IS for their marriage... but it hasn't been for ours. Where I feel we shine is in a willing giving Transparency
with each other.....it is just something that has always BEEN... it is like breathing to us... can I say this is a large part of our "Affair Proofing"...
No matter who I talk too, or what about (If it is interesting, a little "juicy").... he gets an earful ....and it goes that way on his end as well. But yet.. we do have freedom here. He doesn't have to worry if he runs into some woman Out & about & starts a conversation with her (even if an old GF)... he can easily tell me all about it, I am not going to take his head off & think "OMG, why did you do that, are you interested in her?". This would never even enter my mind.
So our craving for "togetherness".... Keeping the Romance Alive...lots of emotionally bonding
...& our steadfast belief in sharing ALL with each other... is what works for us
. We do not believe in any secrets in Marriage.