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Innocent Text?

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So my wife is getting a really expensive tattoo that covers her entire back and requires multiple long sessions to finish. She admitted that the artist is 26 and attractive, and she even told me that she texted him saying,

"This is ***** we can do it next Friday or sometime next week."

Before he replied, she added,

"I just realized how that sounded. lol"

And she even told me all of this. Well, the next day she left her cell phone at home when she went to work, so I looked at the text and it went on,..... he replied to her sexual inuendo,

"Sounds like a plan, we can do that!!! Just bring in $800 and we can make magic happen!! :):)"

To which she replied,

"Alright. Sounds great, so long as you're worth my while...what time?"

He replies, "1 PM ???"

They text goodbye and she ends with a smiley face.

IMO, she is basically giving this guy an open invitation to nail her ass or get a blo job after he tatts her up and takes all of our money. Am I insane to think that?

I confronted her about my insecurity and she showed me the text word for word and did not try to delete or hide anything. She thought that I was overreacting and said that there was nothing to it.

It still did not make me feel better. If a girl tells me that, married or not, I'm thinking I can do that if I want it and if not at least get a BJ. Right??? Or am I crazy?

Please help
 
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#176 ·
Yes, although I see on this forums more the European versus the North Amercian difference displayed.

So in my country, but I believe this is true for Europe as a whole, there is a more tolerant climate for different views on relations.

I think the US is a more black and white thinking nation because of it's short history. It went from the stone age to superpower in a too short amount of time.

When I think about idea's and concepts, the world of thinking starts with the ancient Greek and the Romans.

In Europe there has been a lot of violent repression and torture of people with different opinions, and I think because of that the upper layers of society are well aware of the dangers of close minded thinking, and value the democratic freedoms more than where there is not such an imprint of history.

Meaning that in sexual liberation the new forms of relation, like poly-amory, open marriages, gay marriage etc. are more evaluated on their practical meaning for peoples lives then on their moral and ethical aspects.

This because morality en ethic are seen as the personal domain of each person. One can ventilate his own views, but has to respect those of the other.
 
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Anonymous42, what will you do if/when the OM tattoos his penis, his name, their initials inside of a heart, or similar territorial life long mark on your wife?
 
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#182 ·
You just don't see it because you can't let this argument go. You're not going to have a happy relationship with this woman who continually cheats on you, and you're too young and inexperienced for marriage, PERIOD. You can whine, b!tch, cry, and try to prove you know better but it's not going to get any better for either of you.
 
#183 ·
What many people do not see is that the sugar candy Disney 'reality' of most marriages is also a kind of mutual agreed illusion people choose to believe in for a couple of years....

You could give the same rant to anyone saying to believe in marriage.
 
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#190 ·
Entropy,
I think you have to have high sexual confidence and security to have loose boundaries. It is good for insecure people to know what the boundaries are. If I am not worried of her falling in love with another, or enjoying sex more with another, and she cannot get pregnant, what am I to worry if she uses protection? That she might come because of someone else. I might as well be jealous of dildos
 
#191 ·
If you do a little research you may find that monogamy has increased in both value and as a fairytale as patriarchal society has risen. In societies that are more sexually open we see less violence between and within cultures. Another good comparison is chimpanzees vs bonobos (essentially 2 species of chimps). The Bonobos have rampant sex, lesbian, gay, group, etc, where the chimps are monogamous or serial monogamous like humans. Turns out, chimps are way more violent. Penises are not weapons. Sex is not a bad thing. It is when we apply the market mentality and want to cum and want to own each other that it gets all kinds of ****ed up.
 
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