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Old 02-28-2013, 11:52 AM   #1 (permalink)
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So my wife is getting a really expensive tattoo that covers her entire back and requires multiple long sessions to finish. She admitted that the artist is 26 and attractive, and she even told me that she texted him saying,

"This is ***** we can do it next Friday or sometime next week."

Before he replied, she added,

"I just realized how that sounded. lol"

And she even told me all of this. Well, the next day she left her cell phone at home when she went to work, so I looked at the text and it went on,..... he replied to her sexual inuendo,

"Sounds like a plan, we can do that!!! Just bring in $800 and we can make magic happen!! "

To which she replied,

"Alright. Sounds great, so long as you're worth my while...what time?"

He replies, "1 PM ???"

They text goodbye and she ends with a smiley face.

IMO, she is basically giving this guy an open invitation to nail her ass or get a blo job after he tatts her up and takes all of our money. Am I insane to think that?

I confronted her about my insecurity and she showed me the text word for word and did not try to delete or hide anything. She thought that I was overreacting and said that there was nothing to it.

It still did not make me feel better. If a girl tells me that, married or not, I'm thinking I can do that if I want it and if not at least get a BJ. Right??? Or am I crazy?

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We have been married 2 and a half years and I have never caught her doing anything and she says she has always been faithful to me, but never had long lasting relationships before me.
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Old 02-28-2013, 12:13 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Is she a flirt by nature?
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Old 02-28-2013, 12:13 PM   #4 (permalink)
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Honestly, I think the texting was perhaps a little flirtatious, but you're over-reacting.

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Old 02-28-2013, 12:23 PM   #5 (permalink)
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She sounds a bit on the wild side with a tattoo that covers her entire back.

That plus the text?

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Old 02-28-2013, 12:29 PM   #6 (permalink)
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She is attractive and flirtatious by nature...I guess I am too. I just want to know if you are a guy and a married woman tells you that do you think you can screw her?
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Old 02-28-2013, 12:32 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Not really

Why not go with her to "mark" your territory?

Does she have any other occasions of infidelity or improper behavior in the past? You seem a bit anxious over this
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Old 02-28-2013, 12:34 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Maybe you need to set some boundaries together or revisit your old ones.
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Old 02-28-2013, 12:42 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Why not go with her to "mark" your territory?

Does she have any other occasions of infidelity or improper behavior in the past? You seem a bit anxious over this
I would go with her. I get that there are a lot of long sessions.

Does this come with a free clit piercing?
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Old 02-28-2013, 12:47 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Regardless of whether she has done/not done anything 'improper' before, this situation made you uncomfortable (nothing wrong with that). Perhaps you came across as accusatory (the over-reaction)?

The text does seem too flirtatious for a married woman in my opinion. I would not like my husband to be interacting with another woman in that manner (it would feel disrespectful to me and our marriage).

This is a great opportunity to express to your wife what types of interactions may be more honoring to you and your marriage. It allows you both to agree on what each other is comfortable with. It shouldn't be a demand, but then you both can decide on how you want to be considered in these types of interactions.

Both my husband and I are very personable. We tend to chat up anyone we come in contact with throughout our day. You can be very kind/friendly without being flirtatious or giving ambiguous sexual vibes to someone.

It's a good moment for you and your wife to tease out your boundaries. Then you are both aware that when those boundaries aren't considered, that it may have the potential to hurt the other.
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Old 02-28-2013, 12:51 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Go with her when she gets the tat done?
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I would just be standing there in the lobby like a fool. I guess I just let it go...and focus on her more.
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Regardless of whether she has done/not done anything 'improper' before, this situation made you uncomfortable (nothing wrong with that). Perhaps you came across as accusatory (the over-reaction)?

The text does seem too flirtatious for a married woman in my opinion. I would not like my husband to be interacting with another woman in that manner (it would feel disrespectful to me and our marriage).

This is a great opportunity to express to your wife what types of interactions may be more honoring to you and your marriage. It allows you both to agree on what each other is comfortable with. It shouldn't be a demand, but then you both can decide on how you want to be considered in these types of interactions.

Both my husband and I are very personable. We tend to chat up anyone we come in contact with throughout our day. You can be very kind/friendly without being flirtatious or giving ambiguous sexual vibes to someone.

It's a good moment for you and your wife to tease out your boundaries. Then you are both aware that when those boundaries aren't considered, that it may have the potential to hurt the other.
especially with the 1st paragraph. If it made YOU uncomfortable, she should respect your feelings and you should discuss. If you came across as accusatory, that also should be discussed.

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I find the text inappropriate, but wouldn't necessarily assume anything was going on.

You can let it go but definitely have a conversation about boundaries.
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I would just be standing there in the lobby like a fool. I guess I just let it go...and focus on her more.
Why would you be in the lobbey?

So to push this even further how far does she have to undress for these? I assume shirtless for much of it with her laying on her breasts.

Is there a point where the pants have to come down?

This is where I here folks chime in that this guy os a pro ... like a doctor. he sees naked woman all the time.

I was not really joking about the clit piercing. Since she is in his chair and she is really into this, will they be discussing her next tat that covers other areas beyond this? Will he be examining her breasts for her nipple piercing. My point is that this isolated time can push boundaries very far. What are yours.

I assume she is not using a female because this guy is an artist and she wants his work ... yadda yadda.
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