07-29-2009, 03:15 PM
Join Date: Jan 2009
| | Re: Help! I think my wife is paranoid?!?
She definitely sounds insecure socially, but also, is it possible that she experiences a bit of anxiety when she is in a social situation and she does not know anyone but you? Anxiety like that can cause her to exhibit the exact type of behavior she has...maybe she talks down about them because she is AFRAID to get to know them, and therefore, if she gets it in her head that they are jerks to begin with, then she won't feel as bad for not being able to be social.
Have you talked to her before you are going to expose her to the situation? Maybe you can agree on some time frame for you to stick with her, make a point of getting her introduced around and then go talk to the guys.Then, try coming up with some sort of subtle signal that she can give you, if she is feeling overwhelmed, so you can excuse yourself graciously and go back to her.
Don't just write her off as being a b**** just to be a b**** until you really talk to her about it (and not after a party, when you are ticked off at each other to begin with).