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Old 08-24-2009, 03:46 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Seriously. Do men really get bored with their wives? I feel like an old shoe after 24 years of marriage. Not sure but he loves to get his ego stroked when other women pay attention to him and its not because of his looks cause he's not that handsome (so I've been told by my friends)....but I think he is. I would do and go anywhere that he wanted me to but he doesn't feel the same way. He's always trying to pawn me off onto other people, family or friends. What is your opinion men?
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Old 08-24-2009, 04:16 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I can only speak for my personal situation, but no after 18 years I am nowhere even close to being bored with my wife. Frustrated sure, exasperated uh huh, perplexed yep, but no the "bored" adjective doesn't fit. I still find her very attractive if that is what you were alluding to and quite mysterious. I could do without the mysterious part however. I would say though with complete candor, that I know her well. I can complete her phrases, do things before she asks to have them done, that sort of thing. My counter-question I would pose to you is that after 24 years of marriage do you feel you truly understand your husband?

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Old 08-24-2009, 08:05 PM   #3 (permalink)
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22 years and yes. she is probably bored with me too. it doesnt have to be that way but it is
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Old 08-25-2009, 08:26 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Bored...hummm.... I dont think it's that... I think that after 24 years you just need to be you...People sometimes become one...and they still need to be two...
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no, it's boredom in my case.
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Old 08-25-2009, 08:55 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Ah.. the "B" word. When my wife and I had our first daughter, I insisted that we never used the word "bored" in her presence. So for quite some time, she never heard the word often enough to know what it meant. I was working on the understanding that if she did not know the word for "bored" she would not feel it.

Anyway, at some point she picked it up and "Mommy I'm bored" soon followed.

Boredom is a natural human response to the same stimuli when it's encountered over and over again. Love can help to mask it, but in reality - you have to mix things up a little. If you bring new things into your own personality, your partner will perceive the change.

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1) Read books, and if you read a lot already, read books that are not the type you normally read.

2) Get out of the house and spend time with friends, and try to make new ones. Meeting new people is the best way to become a more interesting person. However, please bear in mind that gossiping with old friends is the fastest way to become more boring...
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Old 08-25-2009, 12:49 PM   #7 (permalink)
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its the routine....gets to be a annoying and leaves feeling bored...so the answer to your question in my opinion is yes. suggestions, Date Night once a week, quality time away or at home but just the two of you. I would not spend more time with just friends. I tried that and was never home because we ended up always planning guy stuff which made matters worse for a while. We swithed to doing more with couples and things have improved since along with the couple time I mentioned. Hope this helps!
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Old 08-25-2009, 02:27 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Bored? Yes. And what do you do if you can't stand being around them???
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H says life would be boring without me. Albeit, quiet and sane.
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Bored? Yes. And what do you do if you can't stand being around them???

i'm getting there real quick
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Bored? Yes. And what do you do if you can't stand being around them???
What is it that makes you not want to be around them? Just out of curiosity...there may inlay the solution possibly.
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i'm getting there real quick

Same question for you...why do you think you and your DW are bored w/each other? Just the routine? Or other things?

Again just out of curiosity...?
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Same question for you...why do you think you and your DW are bored w/each other? Just the routine? Or other things?

Again just out of curiosity...?
my marriage is incomplete. i continue to lose interest in all aspects because a few aspects are gone. i'm not looking for advice and i think the outcome is inevitable, the process in underway.

i could fix it if i really worked very hard and changed who i am, but that means she gets to stay who she is which isnt acceptable. i have read enough on here to know what i'm dealing with. my conclusion is that my spouse has become a defective unit that wont help herself or help fix us.
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my marriage is incomplete. i continue to lose interest in all aspects because a few aspects are gone. i'm not looking for advice and i think the outcome is inevitable, the process in underway.

i could fix it if i really worked very hard and changed who i am, but that means she gets to stay who she is which isnt acceptable. i have read enough on here to know what i'm dealing with. my conclusion is that my spouse has become a defective unit that wont help herself or help fix us.
That makes her sound like a CPU or something.

Anyway, I'm sorry. What about 'who she is' is unacceptable?
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i could fix it if i really worked very hard and changed who i am, but that means she gets to stay who she is which isnt acceptable. i have read enough on here to know what i'm dealing with. my conclusion is that my spouse has become a defective unit that wont help herself or help fix us.
At last the truth comes out. With this frame of mind you are doomed.
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