02-02-2010, 01:35 AM
Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: United States
| | Re: I Have Ruined My Marriage and Hurt My Wife
Come up with a plan to fix the financial mess and then start executing it. Your wife now has a lot of financial stress that you need to help take away.
And act in a confident manner around her - show that you are going to fix this. If she asks how show her a budget - for real - and let her know YOU are not spending any money on YOU, for the next - well you pick the time period - but make it so she knows you are totally owning your mistakes....
Originally Posted by sad1968
I have been with my Wife for the past 20 years and have been married for the past 15 years as of Sept 24th of this year.
I Love my Wife and Children more than anything in the world but over the past three years I became obsessed with becoming a successful Real Estate Guru and then a successful Internet Guru.
I spent a lot of money on the Real Estate and drove us into a large amount of debt I then spent two years trying to make that money back by trying my luck at Internet Marketing.
Last week I had some things happen that led to my Wife and I having a long talk on Wedensday night that felt like a MAC truck hitting me head on. She told me she was tired of me spending all my time trying to make a success at different things and that I needed to either focus on my Family or on my Business. She still loved me but did not like me anymore.
I have a problem with conflict and have been avoiding a lot of bills and other things in my life she has told me that I need to get past these things and we will see what happens. She is very disapointed in me as I am in myself as well for not being a man and taking responsibility for these issues long before now.
What can I do to show my wife that I am changing for her. I Love her and my Kids more than anything to live without them in my life is unimaginable, I can't believe I have managed to take what was a wonderful marriage and run it into the ground with greed for money.
I was already successful with a Wonderful Wife and Kids and a good job, I was just to Damn obsessed with the want of money to see that what I had was already more than what most will ever have.
I hope I can regain her Love and Like and trust and that she still wants to be with me. I Love her more than anything. Any ideas on what I can do other than the ones that I am already doing or any input from those who have been here would be great.
I have given up on my businesses and we may be filing for Chapter 7 in a few weeks but I feel that my make her like me even less and cause more damage.