My husband claims he hasn't since he was a teenager and that he didn't even like it then. I know of one time he did because he told me about it...but other than that, I don't know. I would like to believe him, but who knows?
I am a man and yes, I masterbate. AFAIK, every man I have ever known masterbates, typically at least once but up to 3 or 4 times a day. Any man who says he does not masterbate I would assume is lying, even if just out of embarrassment.
I know many if not most women masterbate, although I do not believe all women masterbate based on the fact that not every woman claims to have had an orgasm.
I cannot comment on pornography b/c nieither I, nor my wife, watch pornography due to our personal convictions about how women are often portrayed. Instead we share and act out our fantasies and "kinks", regardless of how wild they are because I believe our sexual fantasies can tell us things we may not want or have the courage to say outright.
I strongly believe masterbation is a healthy release and any and all guilt associated with it is wrong and misplaced.
Hey ladies. I know you only want to help, but please stop answering for your men. I don't believe a WORD any of them are telling you if the answer is less than once a week. With or without daily sex from you.
The less sex I have with my wife, the more I pull it. I would love to have more intamate moments with my wife, but she is not very sexual. She does not masterbate at all, and thinks my masterbation is dirty. We are having fidelity problems on her part, and this is not helping in the bed room!! I probably do it once a day, unless I get lucky??? She is happy putting out about twice a month??? I need it more than that, so I pull it. And yes, porn helps.
@dan681-"We are having fidelity problems on her part...."
Sorry to hear that,especially since you are still trying to hook up with her.I have questions but do not want to hijack the jacking thread....LOL
See what I did there,I PULLED a funny. LOL
Opps I did it again....
Okay Okay.....YES I masturbate,less lately.But sometimes when I have tried to let it build up it is to over whelming and I will do the deed 5 or 6 times in a session.To porn of coarse.Like Taylor Rain.....
I have been working on resentment issues with my Lady.Things have improved ALOT.So in the weeks up to Thanksgiving....only one session was needed....which entailed maybe 3 times.Which is not alot for me,actually was surprised that I did not have the desire to rub one out,although since me and her have been hooking up it really should have been no surprise.....my hunger was being fed.
Hey ladies. I know you only want to help, but please stop answering for your men. I don't believe a WORD any of them are telling you if the answer is less than once a week. With or without daily sex from you.
Your comment only makes sense to me if I imagine that you belive everyone has your particular libido. Let me explain my thoughts.
Men have varying libidos. A high libido teen can wank a whole lot more than what is quoted so far. Age is a significant factor too. There is tremendous variation.
When you couple a weak libido with a motivation (religious perhaps) to resist, I think you will find some small percentage of guys who succeed in resisting.
However, for a high libido guy... there is no contest, the hand will rule.
I absolutely used to - with porn until 3-4 years ago. At that point (43 years old) my drive had decreased to the point where I decided to experiment and give 100 percent of my sexual energy to my wife.
For what it is worth ask any man this question and he will give you a similar answer. Every single man has a "recharge cycle". This is a time period made of components:
- Refractory period: In sexuality, the refractory period is the recovery phase after orgasm during which it is physiologically impossible for an individual to have additional orgasms. It is also sometimes defined as "the time immediately following orgasm during which a man cannot achieve an erection."[1] The penis may be hypersensitive and further sexual stimulation may even feel painful during this time frame.
- Optimal period: This is subjective and varies for each man. This is basically the duration between orgasms that lends itself to maximum pleasure for the man.
For me - the refractory period is about 10 hours now. After I come I need about 10 hours before I can reliably get hard, have sex and come again. But this is NOT optimal for me. Because when I come 10 hours later I just don't come very hard or long.
Now the optimal period for me is about 5 days. When I have sex after 5 days - WOW - I am fully charged and it is fantastic.
For a man there really is a quality / quantity tradeoff that becomes more pronounced as he ages. I actually prefer sex 2 to 3 times a week over every day. If we do it every day at best it is a 7. If we do it twice a week it is a 9, if we do it once every five days it is consistently a 10.
Twice in one day - the second time is a 5 or 6.
Since wife prefers 2+ times a week if I were to masturbate at all it would simply mean less overall enjoyment.
In my 30's my full recharge cycle was about 24 hours and her drive and mine were mismatched enough for masturbation to simple be my release valve. It was good for her - good for me - and good for our marriage.
I do not think I am the only guy like this by any stretch.
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Your comment only makes sense to me if I imagine that you belive everyone has your particular libido. Let me explain my thoughts.
Men have varying libidos. A high libido teen can wank a whole lot more than what is quoted so far. Age is a significant factor too. There is tremendous variation.
When you couple a weak libido with a motivation (religious perhaps) to resist, I think you will find some small percentage of guys who succeed in resisting.
However, for a high libido guy... there is no contest, the hand will rule.
For me it depends mostly on how much my wife is willing to have sex. If it is like 3 times a week, then I don't. But if the outlook is bleak then I just go ahead and masturbate either every other day, or everyday depending on how bored/busy I am.
It is no secret though. My wife and I masturbate in front of each other before or after sex occasionally and if she is sick or we aren't having sex for some reason, then she'll give me alone time.
Yep... been there.. done that. In fact, I'm still doing that. Sometimes, it's a great stress reliever and other times, it's just necessary. Sometimes, she's not available or in the mood, or feeling well. So yes, when my wife and I were together, she knew that I would masturbate and I knew that she did too. There were times when we would masturbate in front of each other as a form of foreplay.
I do it daily, sometimes many times a day. I have done it almost every day without fail since I discovered it when I was 12. I sometimes use porn, magazines when I was younger...or I use my imagination...Id say the longest I can remember going without doing it was for two weeks when I was in the hospital...didnt even think about it until the day before I got out...was afraid a nurse would walk in so I didnt.
4-10 times a week! I have a lot of sex, so I'm pretty good. Used to be 2-3 times a day in my prime, sometimes back-to-back O's.
Funny, I was just watching "Schoolgirl Report: Vol1" (Old German soft core porn from 1970) and masturbation was so 'controversial' back then (40 years ago!) is still being debated today. Even girls in the 70's were doing it, people!
I've had 2 O's with my wife before (she got one) and I still masturbated in front of her for a 3rd O (she's that hot!)
90+% of men masturbate, and a similar % watch some version of porn. You cannot change human desire, we are the same people we were 1,000 years ago biologically, chemically, etc. Men are visual and require that form of input. Have you ever seen porn in fine art? If not, you should research! Even the Greeks had threesomes, etc. The female body is a beautiful thing!
I do, I used to have a lot of porn, then my w questioned why I have it and it was also because we didn't make love. I also used it as a form of stress relief, and did not need porn, but it helped. I agree with Grrr...would rather be intimate with my partner.
My husband is a very rare breed. Although he definetly masterbated before we were married , up to 3 times a day, he stopped after the wedding, he felt it was "cheating", so he never did it - except for 1 time on a morning we planned to have sex that night - in hopes of conceiving a girl. I never knew this until I asked about this very personal subject a year ago. So glad he did (advice from a co -worker) cause it worked! We conceived a daughter that night, our one & only.
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