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Old 08-12-2011, 04:57 PM   #61 (permalink)
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If I have to pull this thread over, you kids are in for it

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Old 08-12-2011, 04:57 PM   #62 (permalink)
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Lordy, could you modify your posts any faster?
A woman could walk in to Kroger and announce the same thing and probably get just as many takers.
Your ending is about assault and possible rape. That isn't even remotely what I was talking about. If that is the scenario you are afraid of, then don't let women out of the house. Women get raped all the time, in broad daylight.
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LOL It is an old post. But the topic was going....interesting to debate!
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Old 08-12-2011, 04:59 PM   #64 (permalink)
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Again, the same is true for the hubby at the office working those long hours. The wife doesn't give him the attention so he falls victim to the co-worker.
Like I said, it isn't the location or situation....it is the individual.
Arrogant, huh?
Yes. I was arrogant. You are exactly correct. It helped put my marriage in jeopardy which was totally unfair to my wife. Yes!!
This is exactly what I have in my mind.

It is not just a woman thing. I think a group of guys going on these types of trips should raise an eyebrow as well.

This is an excellent point you are making. I agree totally.

BUT the environment makes all the difference. For some it is in a club. For others it is at work.
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Old 08-12-2011, 05:01 PM   #65 (permalink)
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If I have to pull this thread over, you kids are in for it

Ha! No, I am not getting uppity here. I really don't see this as an issue with GNO. I see the person more so than the situation, that is what I am trying to explain.....apparently badly if the sage Mod is looking at (possibly) me in the rear view mirror.

As for the OP, this thread is quite old. I just jumped on because I didn't like the notion that women are just hapless victims that shirk their panties off for any guy and it is the SITUATION that is blamed, rather than the person.
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Lordy, could you modify your posts any faster?
A woman could walk in to Kroger and announce the same thing and probably get just as many takers.
Your ending is about assault and possible rape. That isn't even remotely what I was talking about. If that is the scenario you are afraid of, then don't let women out of the house. Women get raped all the time, in broad daylight.
Could we get a probability and statistics person in here please?

I mention assault and rape becasue we are talking about an environment with predators.

Why do you guys always go to the letting a wife out of the house. It is not a black and white world. It is full of shades of gray and nuance. As I stated my wife has travelled as well. I was very comfortable with the parameters for lack of a better word. I trust her more than anyone else in the world. I would not be comfortable with her travelling to a meat market situation. I would take that as her being disrespectful if nothing else. That is just me. All situations are not the same. It all ... depends.
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Entropy, you imply that all men can have any woman they want, anytime............if you really believe this, you are just a tad bit full of yourself, as in, "God's gift to Women"............you also mention the wife thinking of her "boring/responsible" husband at home, as if boring and responsible are synonymous, they aren't............and if you think you are thought of as "boring" by your wife, then that's YOUR fault..................after reading your comments on this thread though, I think you are the very kind of guy that other guys have to work very hard at proving we aren't all like.
I imply no such thing. In fact my example was the opposite. That an average woman would draw a croud and a man would not.

I am saying that in the right environment a woman is exhibiting risky behavior by drinking heavily, flirting and dancing with other men. If you read these threads you will see time and again the Nice Guy sitting home. The wife out having some fun because she loves him but is not in love with him.

I am saying that risky behavior can be unfaithful in itself.
A woman going to Kroger is not the same as a women dressing up to go out, drink, flirt and dance with other men who are there to bed someone. Are we saying there is no difference folks?

Really!?


I am saying that any given woman in that scenario has increased her posibility of being gamed from about zero to something greater than zero. The more she goes and puts herself out there the more chance of failure. Maybe it only increases the chances by double.

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Old 08-12-2011, 05:24 PM   #69 (permalink)
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Please continue on, I am taking my wonderful wife to Studio Movie Grill. She deserves some attention after all.

I am beginning to worry about her trips to Kroger ............ NOT!!!

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I am saying that any given woman in that scenario has increased her posibility of being gamed from about zero to something greater than zero.

In my case, and that of probably most of the women I know, that probability remains at zero... because we are just not interested. Even given all the "risky" circumstances. So, my original point was...and is... that IF you intimately know your woman, and know that she has zero interest .... then you could be confident that in ANY circumstances she would remain not interested, and that outside influences won't sway her.

But, like you said....there are shades of gray. Women who get all dolled up to go "out with the girls" are wanting to attract men, and that IS a wife you might worry about... but not women in general.
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makes sure she dresses appropriately and doesn't talk to anyone.
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makes sure she dresses appropriately and doesn't talk to anyone.
LOL.

Actually I like my wife to dress sexy when we go out. I hope she talks to me!

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I am saying that any given woman in that scenario has increased her posibility of being gamed from about zero to something greater than zero.

In my case, and that of probably most of the women I know, that probability remains at zero... because we are just not interested. Even given all the "risky" circumstances. So, my original point was...and is... that IF you intimately know your woman, and know that she has zero interest .... then you could be confident that in ANY circumstances she would remain not interested, and that outside influences won't sway her.

But, like you said....there are shades of gray. Women who get all dolled up to go "out with the girls" are wanting to attract men, and that IS a wife you might worry about... but not women in general.
Having read your threads, I am very inclined to agree with you. I just think you are way above average. Bright Eyes is very strong willed as well.

It is hard these days to have a marriage that does not have its ups and downs. Honestly my heart is in the right place. I am all for fun. I have a tad myself. But as Bright Eyes points out I have screwed up my own way.

Now if after all of this my wife ends up banging a guy from Kroger I am going to be doubly pi$$ed!!

I do trust my wife. She is not a party girl though. Whe she does have something to drink it has to be very little because it hits her hard.

Be careful ladies!!
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I trust her etc and am 99.9% sure she'd never do anything but I still dont like these weekends.

Any other fellas worry about things like this? Or is it just me?
I wouldnt worry myself. I trust my wife, not 99.9%, not 37.5% not 345.493%. Just, I trust my wife, period!

You need to be honest with yourself, you obivoulsy dont trust your wife 99.9% or else you wouldnt be here asking these things.

Tell her your worried she is going to go and get raped, drunk and **** some stranger, etc. If you have concerns you need to voice them. Otherwise you have communication issues, and that is the #1 marriage breaker.
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Well said Sock!
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