06-29-2013, 01:40 AM
Join Date: Apr 2013
| | Men- How do you run your family?
Do you have it where you involve your wife in decisions, take and listen to her opinions, treat her like she's your equal and not your subordinate...or do you just say to heck with that I'm the boss screw you?
Reason I ask is this is basically what my husband does. Our marriage is a tyranny and that's how he likes it and he sees no problem with it. He grew up in a family where his dad was absent a lot due to work (understandable to a point) and when he was home it was all about him and he was extremely selfish, somewhat lazy and extremely dictator like. I grew up where yes my dad had the final say but he involved my mom in decisions, he treated her like his equal and not his doormat and he respected her.
I get that men are the head of the household but I don't feel like they should take it to their head and treat their wives like their doormats. My husband is so extremely dictator like and he frequently says if I don't like it, I can leave and cares nothing about trying to change. He always brings up the excuse (least that's what I call it) of well that's all I know because that's all I saw growing up. He claims at if a family isn't run in that fashion then the kids will end up in jail and into all kinds of trouble. I don't think that's true at all. I wasn't raised that way and I've never been in jail, never drank or done drugs and have never been in trouble in the way that he states would happen.
I just don't get how he thinks this is right. Any thoughts on this would be greatly appreciated. Thanks guys