I've read some of the threads on the site, and tried to post long ago, but haven't really participated much.
I'm a very happy father of 3 boys, with a 4th child (a girl) on the way soon. My family is blended, as my oldest boy is from my first marriage, which ended more or less amicably due to the two of us just having been really immature and young when we got together.
Of course, we have our problems, but I'm looking here because of a very confusing problem I have. I imagine it's not that uncommon. I am thrilled to be husband and dad, and have a stable home life. But wife and I have almost no time for romantic interactions, and it's begun to weigh on me heavily. Sex is part of it, but also just the general affection for one another is entirely centered around our love for our children now. This doesn't lead to much sex.
I was a very sexually active person when we met, and we were extremely sexually adventurous right up until our son was born. Now we have sex about once every 3 - 6 months (her being pregnant has not really changed this either way). There's no yearning, no longing for connection. It's weird to even be complaining because we are literally gushing with love and affection for our children.
I have a true desire to connect with her on a romantic level again though, but any and all romantic attempts by me are generally met with sweet apologies about wanting to sleep. I don't even want to have sex at this point, I just want to tease and be physically intimate at _any_ level.
Any advice is very much appreciated. Thanks.
I'm a very happy father of 3 boys, with a 4th child (a girl) on the way soon. My family is blended, as my oldest boy is from my first marriage, which ended more or less amicably due to the two of us just having been really immature and young when we got together.
Of course, we have our problems, but I'm looking here because of a very confusing problem I have. I imagine it's not that uncommon. I am thrilled to be husband and dad, and have a stable home life. But wife and I have almost no time for romantic interactions, and it's begun to weigh on me heavily. Sex is part of it, but also just the general affection for one another is entirely centered around our love for our children now. This doesn't lead to much sex.
I was a very sexually active person when we met, and we were extremely sexually adventurous right up until our son was born. Now we have sex about once every 3 - 6 months (her being pregnant has not really changed this either way). There's no yearning, no longing for connection. It's weird to even be complaining because we are literally gushing with love and affection for our children.
I have a true desire to connect with her on a romantic level again though, but any and all romantic attempts by me are generally met with sweet apologies about wanting to sleep. I don't even want to have sex at this point, I just want to tease and be physically intimate at _any_ level.
Any advice is very much appreciated. Thanks.