Your marriage will be what you both want it to be.
Is there a fits all? No.
Everyone's different. We married very young. We've been thru a huge amount of time, issues, etc.
Our ways were developed over time by trial and error.
It took me awhile to learn how to treat a woman. I'm very alpha and had to learn a huge amount to become a good husband. For women this comes somewhat natural on how to treat a husband I think.
As you will find men in general are kinda dumb on the special little everyday things that mean a lot to women.
However, we must be doing something right because in June we celebrate our 41st anniversary.
The thing is communication. Talk about your likes and dislikes, issues, etc.
Men are pretty much horrible at this but I learned. Women for the most part know this instinctively. You need to understand this.
Sometimes the best way to get his attention will be a 2x4 across the forehead.
haha Appreciate your advice!!
I can't see the password thing, honestly. In my eyes, and his ...we are both very much our own people, and respect one another's space. I think if you have to obtain passwords, it sends a message of distrust. If I can't trust my fiance to do the right thing, because he wants to, not because he is obligated to or is worried I might 'find out,' then the relationship is already over. This is just my personal view, everyone is different.
We don't want to be one another's parent, or create an environment that breeds insecurity. If someone wants to cheat, they will find a way, and if either of us does, we already have said...it's a deal breaker for us both.
I went though a pre-caan program though my church. It was excellent but should have been much longer in duration. Funny thing if they discussed theology for no more then a tiny bit. It was all about real problems and real solutions, discovering pitfalls, avoiding them and hidden assumptions.
Bottomline get marriage counseling now, in a big way. Learn now about the harm each of you can do without realizing it. Understand what adultery can do to each other. It might stop you from making the biggest mistake of your lives. What's the WORST thing about infidelity?
Finally you need to learn to swing a 2x4, bluntness in everyday life is a must for a woman when dealing with a husband. Clear boundaries are a must. Remember healthy boundaries are those actions we take to protect and nourish that we hold dear. So no blows to the head, no blows to the groin, just body blows.
Yes, we are thinking of attending a (pre)marriage workshop for new couples at a local church. I left the faith for a while, and was an atheist, and recently came back to Christianity, and think it would be a great thing for us to attend.
Thank you for your thoughts here today!