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post #136 of 1215 (permalink) Old 06-30-2016, 01:23 PM
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Couples counseling?

F*ck that.

Counseling is for married couples, and if your relationship requires counseling prior to marriage, it's time to pull the plug.

And to Hell w/ going back to "just dating".

Just be done.
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No worries I know single moms - like the one in my family - and their experience with finding partners has been difficult..people whether men or women who step up in this situation and step up at 100% are rare indeed..perhaps its me but I take sh!tty people for granted the genuinely decent and noble ones i'm grateful for...
Both of my sisters were fortunate, though I do still maintain one should have waited lol. And both of their husbands were early/mid 20s, while my sisters, at the time they each married them, were early 30s. Oddly enough, the one who was youngest at the time he married my sister, was actually the one who was ready to take on two young children and a wife. 😊

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You're marrying a consistent partier that has a son at home getting raised by her parents????

Dude, you're really knee-deep in the stuff, aren't you. Girls like that aren't for marrying. They're for avoiding.
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I may have taken out of context here.My fiancée is a great mother to her son and if I gave any other impression then I apologise.What I meant was these freeloaders would have to find some other fool to pay for their nights out.My fiancée always gets her son up in the morning even when she stays over,she leaves him to and collects him from school every day.Her mother watches him at night but only if she is with me.With all the arrangements for the wedding we have been out more than usual and it is when she has drunk a lot that these problems arise.
She also runs a business with almost twenty employees part time and full time.
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Couples counseling?

F*ck that.

Counseling is for married couples, and if your relationship requires counseling prior to marriage, it's time to pull the plug.

And to Hell w/ going back to "just dating".

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No, pre-marital counseling isn't the same as couples counseling. Since he is coming up with every reason to stay with this woman, I'm going to give him things to do instead of rushing into marriage.

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What I meant was these freeloaders would have to find some other fool to pay for their nights out.My fiancée always gets her son up in the morning even when she stays over,she leaves him to and collects him from school every day.Her mother watches him at night but only if she is with me.With all the arrangements for the wedding we have been out more than usual and it is when she has drunk a lot that these problems arise.
See, already blame shifting to the friends.
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Both of my sisters were fortunate, though I do still maintain one should have waited lol. And both of their husbands were early/mid 20s, while my sisters, at the time they each married them, were early 30s. Oddly enough, the one who was youngest at the time he married my sister, was actually the one who was ready to take on two young children and a wife. 😊

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They are indeed fortunate..especially sine their husbands were in their early/mid 20s..many men that age can't even be trusted with the laundry lol

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I may have taken out of context here.My fiancée is a great mother to her son and if I gave any other impression then I apologise.What I meant was these freeloaders would have to find some other fool to pay for their nights out.My fiancée always gets her son up in the morning even when she stays over,she leaves him to and collects him from school every day.Her mother watches him at night but only if she is with me.With all the arrangements for the wedding we have been out more than usual and it is when she has drunk a lot that these problems arise.
Then perhaps she shouldn't drink...

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I may have taken out of context here.My fiancée is a great mother to her son and if I gave any other impression then I apologise.What I meant was these freeloaders would have to find some other fool to pay for their nights out.My fiancée always gets her son up in the morning even when she stays over,she leaves him to and collects him from school every day.Her mother watches him at night but only if she is with me.With all the arrangements for the wedding we have been out more than usual and it is when she has drunk a lot that these problems arise.
She also runs a business with almost twenty employees part time and full time.
her friends maybe freeloaders but she chose them, didnt she?

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They are indeed fortunate..especially sine their husbands were in their early/mid 20s..many men that age can't even be trusted with the laundry lol
Welllll... the laundry is a different story... lol 😉

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No, pre-marital counseling isn't the same as couples counseling. Since he is coming up with every reason to stay with this woman, I'm going to give him things to do instead of rushing into marriage.

See, already blame shifting to the friends.
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Immediately (and completely) drop any and all toxic friends, especially the one that offered to come over and "talk" if things don't work out.
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She sounds like a people pleaser with boundary issues. My guess is if he does follow through and marry her, he will take over parenting duties from her mother. This will lead to resentments and eventually she will cheat on him.

Andy, make it clear to her, you want a partner for a wife, not a child. She needs to prove she can put herself, her child and you above partying and her toxic friends.

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My response to that comment would have been "She's got a young child to raise. She shouldn't be going out all week. Period."

If I was feeling particularly snarky, I'd have added "Why? Are you upset? Did you have to pay for your own drinks?"

Seriously, I'm just reading about this drama llama and feeling my blood pressure rise.
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I may have taken out of context here.My fiancée is a great mother to her son and if I gave any other impression then I apologise.What I meant was these freeloaders would have to find some other fool to pay for their nights out.My fiancée always gets her son up in the morning even when she stays over,she leaves him to and collects him from school every day.Her mother watches him at night but only if she is with me.With all the arrangements for the wedding we have been out more than usual and it is when she has drunk a lot that these problems arise.
She also runs a business with almost twenty employees part time and full time.
That does sound different. However, you need to think about why mom in law wants her out either way, come October. I think this is likely pointing at the fact that's she's not quite the mom you like to think, and your future mom in law is tired of being a free babysitter all the time.

Regardless of whatever, this desire to be partying and drinking is not the making of a good wife and mother.
Just saying you'd be wise to slow way down like you're doing.

Ask yourself if you're seeing her as she is, or how you'd like her to be.
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That does sound different. However, you need to think about why mom in law wants her out either way, come October. I think this is likely pointing at the fact that's she's not quite the mom you like to think, and your future mom in law is tired of being a free babysitter all the time.

Regardless of whatever, this desire to be partying and drinking is not the making of a good wife and mother.
Just saying you'd be wise to slow way down like you're doing.

Ask yourself if you're seeing her as she is, or how you'd like her to be.
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Yeah I think I just got a little excited at seeing her again,she is seriously hot.I never even thought about the tattoo so she might have already got it for all I know.Thats my problem when I see things from afar I am sensible enough but once she is beside me common sense seems to leave.
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Is she the youngest child in her family? She acts that way.

If she's that successful in her business, she needs to get her own place and get daycare for her kid while she's at work. She has a lot of growing up to do. She needs to be a responsible adult rather than using other people and then acting like a brat when she doesn't get her way.

Her family's reaction is *very, very* revealing. This isn't a one time thing. This points to a long pattern of similar behavior and is likely deeply rooted in her personality.
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I suspect if a girl is really attractive, it's hard to grow up not feeling like they're above the "commoners". There are some, but sometimes I almost wonder if being a particularly hot, hottie, isn't almost a detriment on a person's psychological development. People make exceptions and treat exceptionally beautiful people differently.
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