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post #31 of 1215 (permalink) Old 06-29-2016, 04:17 PM
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Re: Fiancées tattoo.

Breaking off an engagement b/c of a tattoo, really? You don't own her body brother. Yes, there's the principle of it...but it all comes back to a tattoo, which is insignificant in the grand scheme of things.

If anything, I would suggest you ask her to sit on it for a few months, and if she still really wants to get one then, to go ahead and get it. She may just be in an emotional state right now and not thinking clearly and may regret her decision.

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Re: Fiancées tattoo.

I hate people who hate tattoos.
But you did tell her of your preference early on. Just chalk it up to not being right for each other.

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Re: Fiancées tattoo.

Or... if, as he stated in the first place, it is a deal breaker, then don't compromise on it. I really hate when people try to tell someone to compromise on something that was stated to be a deal breaker. Sorry, I don't care if someone has a tattoo or not, personally, but if it was a deal breaker for me, I would be PISSED OFF if people told me I needed to compromise because THEY don't think it's a big deal! Maybe he is willing to compromise, maybe he isn't. But it isn't for US to decide if something should or should not be a deal breaker for someone else!

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I hate people who hate tattoos.
But you did tell her of your preference early on. Just chalk it up to not being right for each other.

Well i hate people who hate people who hate tattoos, but then again i think hate is such a harsh word.
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Yes, this was discussed before they were engaged.

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Sounds like you have a negotiation problem.
No, they had a mutual agreement, negotiations were already closed. No Tattoos and no insulting son's fatherhood.

Just be real, you think this one is ridiculous. If she was here saying he broke the son boundary everyone would be losing their minds if she kept the marriage on.

Yes, I know, but it doesn't matter. If this is his boundary, it is just as important to him as her child issue.
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Well i hate people who hate people who hate tattoos, but then again i think hate is such a harsh word.
Well I hate you then....but seriously I have much better things to hate on....like terrorists and racists scum.

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Her friends are right, it's her body. It's also your life and your dealbreaker. If the fact that she gets a tattoo is a dealbreaker for you, a dealbreaker that was discussed beforehand, then you are not unreasonable to at least put the M on hold or end the whole relationship. Hell, you don't really need a reason to do that anyway. It's not her or their decision to make.

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Her whole behaviour stinks. First agreeing to the dealbreaker, then announcing her tattoo publicly with her friends pressuring you, minimizing you and your feelings about something that's not really necessary. If supporting a friend through meassures that you don't like is more important to her than you and your feelings, knowing the possible consequences (and I think she does not really think you were/are serious about it), i guess you know her priorities.

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It is her body yes...but the tattoo is not the point.
She showed her character by discussing and then agreeing to something and then breaking that and going against it.
Breaking an engagement over a tattoo..no.
I'm not saying he should break the engagement. But they need to sit down and talk about the future and how this makes him question if he can trust her not to go back on her word on more important things.



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Her sister has told me that the whole thing stems from a group of my fiancées friends and some employees talking about what their partners opinion on their hairstyles,clothes etc really mattered.My fiancée let slip about my aversion to tattoos ans some of them suggested getting a temporary tattoo and surprise me in bed with it.
However her tattooed friend told her she was a doormat and suggested the two of them get tattoos in memory of her father and to teach me a lesson.This is advice from a woman who has never had a relationship last more than a month.My fiancée just laughed but when she got a few drinks she said it to me and I hit the roof.Now she is unwilling to lose face in front of her employees and friends and has asked her sister to plead with me to let it go.I am expected to look at this tattoo for the rest of my life because she "can't lose face".Her father rung me and said if she gets the tattoo he will pay to have it removed after the wedding.They just don't get it,it's ok for me to look like an idiot but she can't be seen to back down.
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Re: Fiancées tattoo.

You got all the information you need. She doesn't respect you enough to consider your feelings, it's more important to her to goof on you to her friends. End it, find another suitable partner.


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Her sister has told me that the whole thing stems from a group of my fiancées friends and some employees talking about what their partners opinion on their hairstyles,clothes etc really mattered.My fiancée let slip about my aversion to tattoos ans some of them suggested getting a temporary tattoo and surprise me in bed with it.
However her tattooed friend told her she was a doormat and suggested the two of them get tattoos in memory of her father and to teach me a lesson.This is advice from a woman who has never had a relationship last more than a month.My fiancée just laughed but when she got a few drinks she said it to me and I hit the roof.Now she is unwilling to lose face in front of her employees and friends and has asked her sister to plead with me to let it go.I am expected to look at this tattoo for the rest of my life because she "can't lose face".Her father rung me and said if she gets the tattoo he will pay to have it removed after the wedding.They just don't get it,it's ok for me to look like an idiot but she can't be seen to back down.
Sounds like she needs to decide between you or the toxic friend If you dont want to call off the engagement perhaps you could postpone the wedding...she sounds like she needs to grow the !@#$ up IMO....but this is a red flag...

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She seems incredibly disrespectful.
A doormat?
How old is she that she can't have her own opinions And seems so easily swayed.



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Just be real, you think this one is ridiculous.
You are right I do think this one is ridiculous. And I'm sorry to have broken my anti Sarcasm vow.
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Thank you for the advice.
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That's another thing she has a 7 yo son..she needs to grow up before he does dont you think?

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