I am a 44 y/o married male. 13 years married and 16 years together with the same SO. Recently, my SO hit me with the "I love you but I am not in love with you" talk back in Aug 2016. Same month, she was caught with her "just a friend" OM in the act by my children, 8 and 11. I may have not been the easiest person to live with over the years but I deserved better than this treatment. My kids and now traumatized. I've been in counseling and have made great strides in changing my ways for the better. It is a slower process to get my kids to open up to counseling. My spiritual beliefs guide me and the teaching instruct me to keep working on the marriage. The Bible tells me how to do it but if my efforts fall upon deaf ears, my efforts are in vein and a simple test of futility. That resistance is what I face with from my SO.
I hope to learn and share as a member of this community.
Wishing all the best of their situations!
UM the bible tells you leaving for infidelity is perfectly acceptable.
Matthew 5:31-32 [Jesus speaking] -
31 “It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality
, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Your out is in red, take it. Not to get all religious as I am not one to do that on here but I see holier-than-thou Christians preach this all the time and they are just wrong. Don't listen to anyone who is self righteous enough to contradict the words of Christ.
Finally if they say God hates divorce yes that is true, however he hates adultery much more. In fact there has never been a time in all of the judeo christian religion that God expected a person to stay with a cheater. In Christ's day your wife would be dead and you would be free to go about your life. Why you ask, because of -
If a man commits adultery with another man's wife--with the wife of his neighbor--both the adulterer and the adulteress are to be put to death.
So allowing a spouse who committed adultery to live and be divorced is really a good deal from the Bibles point of view. It's one of those deals were Christ forgives the sinner. If you want to, leave your wife and feel no guilt my friend.