I'm sorry that this has happened to you Brenda.
You say that you were at work when this happened. Do you work full time? Does he have a job?
Sadly, it seems that your husband is cheating on and thinks he can pull the wool over your eyes and play games with you. At this point he seems to think that he holds all the power in your relationship. He will continue to do this until you make a stand.
My suggestion is that you top talking to him. I know that this might sound counter to what you think you need to do. But as long as you keep talking to him, he will keep thinking that you will take anything that he dishes out.
One thing you need to realize that an affair causes what is often called the affair fog. See he has two women right now who want him. Two women filling his needs. So, he's on an emotional high. When this happens, his brain is pumping out a whole lot of feel good hormones... kind of liken when a person takes cocaine. The affair is a fantasy.. she does not have to fill all of his needs so it's easy for both of them.
What you need to do is to take yourself out of the picture for right now. You do that in a few steps. The first is to interact with him according to what we call the 180 (see the link in my signature block below). Doing the 180 do several things. The first and most important is that it will protect you from the very hurtful way he's treating you right now. Another thing that it will do is to let him know that you will not allow yourself to be mistreated. If he wants any kind of chance to be with your, he needs to dump the affair partner. And after he does that, you might consider taking him back... maybe.
Begging, pleading, letting him see you cry, always answering your phone when he calls: All of that will do nothing but drive him away. Just do the 180.
Do you have family or friends who know what is going on? Are they giving you any good support right now?
Last edited by EleGirl; 02-19-2017 at 03:22 AM.