Originally Posted by Trying2getitRIGHT View Post
I would appreciate any help.
From what you describe, she has lost respect for you and attraction. The lack of French kissing is damning. Other signs are, does she enjoy your scent? Does she speak highly of you with other women? Does your opinion matter to her at all?
This is what you need to do to fix the situation. At like a bachelor. I don't mean cheat on her, that's despicable. I mean do everything in your power to raise VALUE in her eyes. And being a man, other women would chase and want makes YOU a commodity she is going to make sure you are happy with her.
Right now, she has no respect for you. She thinks you're a loser who is lucky to have her, cause no one else will, so you aren't going anywhere. Sorry that's the truth. That's why sh!ts all over you.
Follow this process:
1) Hit the gym hard (not just cardio), HEAVY lifting 3 times a week. Google "Stronglifts 5x5 routine". Put on some muscle. Diet to get to a normal BMI.
2) Clean cut and hygienic is good. Dress well at all times, even if you are bumming around the house and ESPECIALLY anytime you walk out the door.
3) Start making plans OUTSIDE of the marriage. Reconnect with some friends or find a SOCIAL hobby or activity to get involved with. Something that gets you outside frequently.
4) Kill her with kindness but do not yield to ANY of her sh!t tests. Also, stop doing the dishes and do manly choirs like mowing the lawn if you want to contribute.
5) Don't ever give MORE than you get. Don't compliment her if she doesn't reciprocate. Don't initiate unless she does. Not even 50/50 it should be 40/60 in your favor.
Look at it this way. If all else fails, if you practice 1-5 then you will ALREADY be in prime position to replace her with someone who isn't an ingrate and doesn't treat you like a jerk.