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10-12-2012 09:02 AM
happyman64
Re: Been cheated on for last 1.5 years

Good to hear from you BB.

I am happy for you that you are healing and have found someone new.

Very funny how you met your new GF. Karma baby!

HM64
10-12-2012 01:25 AM
tom67
Re: Been cheated on for last 1.5 years

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Originally Posted by krismimo View Post
Happy your doing good and aug it has been a year keep in mind that they were only married for three months after he found out she was cheating. I think that is more than enough time.
Took me after much ic and slapping to get off the pitypot almost 2 years but have a great gf she and om are history and d tells me she is miserable and I DON'T CARE.
10-12-2012 01:20 AM
krismimo
Re: Been cheated on for last 1.5 years

Happy your doing good and aug it has been a year keep in mind that they were only married for three months after he found out she was cheating. I think that is more than enough time.
10-12-2012 01:04 AM
aug
Re: Been cheated on for last 1.5 years

I would say be careful with your current girlfriend. Make sure it's not a rebound relationship.
10-11-2012 09:25 PM
Jonesey
Re: Been cheated on for last 1.5 years

Thanks for the update. Im also glad to hear you doing great.
This will be a good reading for others that been betrayed.And ended up divorced.. Now the know life does not end.

TAM needs more of this divorce, that ends up with a happy ending.
Thanks again
10-11-2012 08:59 PM
beenbetrayed
Re: Been cheated on for last 1.5 years

As of today, its officially been a year since DDay and when I started this thread. I don't come on this site too much anymore but I just wanted to post an update to where I am today and hopefully let the new people here know that things do eventually get better.

A year ago was one of the worst days of my life. I went through pain that I wish no one ever had to go through. It's a horrible place to be in as I'm sure most people here already know. But writing about it today, I'm grateful I went through it. I've learned so much about myself during this last year. I know what I want in life now and who I want to surround myself with. Ive learned how amazing my friends and family are. And, not to sound ****y, but Ive also realized that I'm pretty much the strongest person I know. It may sound corny, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Seriously, if you can survive something like this, you can survive anything.

This past year, I've become a better person overall. I'm much more open to try new things. I've become much more outgoing and just all around a lot happier in my life. I didn't even realize that I wasn't truly happy until I got out of that relationship. Looking back at it, I shutter at the thought of ever being with my ex. Life is just so much better now.

I've officially started seeing someone a month ago who is frickin beautiful and all around much better of a person than my ex ever was. The universe is crazy because I actually met this girl with my ex during the brief time that we were married. Actually, I met her on the same day that I first started to get suspicious of my ex. Pretty nuts. If someone told me then that a year from that day I would be annulled from my wife and dating this girl, I would have called them crazy lol.

My advice for new people here, find some hobbies to keep you occupied and make yourself physically fit. Working out really helped me a hell of a lot. I started lifting, running, and doing Bikram yoga and now I just can't imagine my life without all that. Stay busy, get out of the house a lot. That helped me atleast. And just actively try to make yourself grow from everything that youre going through. Read No More Mr. Nice Guy. Really good book.

Update on her? I have no clue if she's still with the OM. I don't really give a ****. Last I heard, the OMW is divorcing and suing him for as much as she can. And according to my friend who still sees my ex at work, she's gotten really big and looks like she's aged quite a bit lol.

I have absolutely no regrets with everything that happened. I truly believe it was the best thing that ever happened to me and anyone else going through the same thing, keep your head up. Youll get through it too!
08-08-2012 01:28 AM
MattMatt
Re: Been cheated on for last 1.5 years

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Originally Posted by bandit.45 View Post
Nice cadence and rythmic interplay. I like it.

Post it.
Sounds like a C&W song!
08-08-2012 12:55 AM
DavidWYoung
Re: Been cheated on for last 1.5 years

Eject,Eject,Eject!
08-07-2012 10:06 PM
Shaggy
Re: Been cheated on for last 1.5 years

Next time you should explain the situation like this:

Some people get killed by cancer, I got cured by having her cut out.

The trash enabler is effective a carcinogen and you know those are toxic and should be avoided,
08-07-2012 07:49 PM
beenbetrayed
Re: Been cheated on for last 1.5 years

Wow today sucked. Ran into a bunch of her old co-workers from years ago. One of them was the b*tch that knew the whole time and helped her sneak around. Don't know why but that just ruined my f*ckin mood. I was visibly uncomfortable and I'm kinda annoyed how I handled it. It just caught me off guard. I should have called her helper a b*tch or something. One of the guys told me though that when he found out, he cussed her out and never spoke with her again.
07-02-2012 10:00 PM
happyman64
Re: Been cheated on for last 1.5 years

I knew you could not resist.

Time to work on you and stop thinking of her.

Get done what you need to do so you can move forward with your life.
07-02-2012 07:08 PM
beenbetrayed
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Originally Posted by bandit.45 View Post
Good. Succinct and to the point. Let us know how she responds.
I doubt she's gonna respond. She'll probably just read it and complain to the OM about it
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07-02-2012 06:16 PM
bandit.45
Re: Been cheated on for last 1.5 years

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Couldn't help it. Posted this:

Who would've thought my life would be so much better without you in it. Happy "one year"
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Good. Succinct and to the point. Let us know how she responds.
07-02-2012 06:14 PM
beenbetrayed
Re: Been cheated on for last 1.5 years

Couldn't help it. Posted this:

Who would've thought my life would be so much better without you in it. Happy "one year"
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07-02-2012 02:11 PM
happyman64
Re: Been cheated on for last 1.5 years

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Originally Posted by beenbetrayed View Post
Im not gonna post that. She's not even on Facebook anymore. She deleted her account cuz she was afraid of getting harassed by everybody lol. She goes on from her cousins account and stalks everyone from that. But I never intended to post that poem anyway. If anything I was just gonna post how much better off I am today than a year ago today
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And BB, that is what life is all about, being in a better place than we were in the past.

Everyone on TAM is in a better place or they have come here asking for advice on how to get to a better place.

Keep moving forward.

Nice poem. I might rewrite it for you and make it rhyme???

Have a great day. And happy anniversary on your new freedom.

Free from all her cr*p!
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