Talk About Marriage - Reply to Topic
 Talk About Marriage
  The Marriage Advice and Relationship Help Forums
  right
Forums - For Therapists - Link to Us - Advertise  

    A Public Forum Provided by The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory
Register FAQ Community Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read

Life After Divorce Divorce is complicated, and change is never easy to cope with. Use this section for help and advice on living life after a divorce.

Thread: If you were dumped, do you wish your X failure? Reply to Thread
Title:
  
Message:
Trackback:
Send Trackbacks to (Separate multiple URLs with spaces) :
Post Icons
You may choose an icon for your message from the following list:
 

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on Talk About Marriage, you must first register. Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.

Important! Your username will be visible to the public next to anything you post and could show up in search engines like Google. If you are concerned about anonymity, PLEASE choose a username that will not be recognizable to anyone you know.
User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



Additional Options
Miscellaneous Options

Topic Review (Newest First)
05-24-2012 11:19 PM
Sunshine72 Karma is the best. No I'll wishes needed.

My first husband married OW the day our divorce was final. I knew he was not happy. I also knew she was not the only one.

Well, 13ish years later. He left her for another woman. Original OW wonders how he could lose his mind and abandon his children.......

We actually became friends over the years so she's venting to me. I don't have the heart to tell her that I remember feeling EXACTLY
the same way.

What comes around goes around. Anger only hurts u. Wish everyone well. They'll get what's coming to them all on their own. If you're
lucky you'll get to watch.
Posted via Mobile Device
05-24-2012 11:12 AM
Jellybeans
Re: If you were dumped, do you wish your X failure?

Quote:
Originally Posted by kruppmart View Post
I believe she knowing that I am doing great while she went down the social ladder, will be the best revenge I can get. No more living in a nice neighborhood ... no more driving nice new cars ... no more vacations in HH and Mexico ...
She could have all of that again one day. Just saying.

Life isn't all things about materialism and vacations and cars.
05-24-2012 11:11 AM
Jellybeans
Re: If you were dumped, do you wish your X failure?

There is a lot of bitterness in this thread. I don't wish him/her failure BUT.......

LOL
05-24-2012 11:08 AM
UpnDown
Re: If you were dumped, do you wish your X failure?

I just wish her a reality check. That's about it.
05-24-2012 07:15 AM
kruppmart
Re: If you were dumped, do you wish your X failure?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Jayb View Post
Yes! And as much as I think I'll settle for someone less, there is a possibility I'll find someone even more. Better looking, wealthier, more stable, etc.

Then..............a big FU!!

For all of the hurt, pain, etc. that I had to endure. Wishing, hoping, waiting.
I feel the same. I believe she knowing that I am doing great while she went down the social ladder, will be the best revenge I can get. No more living in a nice neighborhood ... no more driving nice new cars ... no more vacations in HH and Mexico ... no more spending money for the kids ...
I will just wait for that to happen.
05-23-2012 12:54 AM
seven77heaven
Re: If you were dumped, do you wish your X failure?

The best revenge is a good life...
05-23-2012 12:51 AM
Nsweet
Re: If you were dumped, do you wish your X failure?

I don't have to wish my cheating ex wife failure.... simply because the relationship with the dirtbag she left me for has about as much of a chance of surviving as I do winning the lottery TWICE.

I'm not even jealous at this point and I'm just going to sit back and watch the codependent control freak kindergarten teacher try to change a lazy alcoholic pothead go nowhere musician into a descent man.

I'm not quite over this whole thing but at least I've come to terms with how I can do so much better and deserve a faithful partner. If she did come back (and the odds are in my favor she's likely too), I would so turn the tables on that piece of sh!t and give him something to cry about.
05-22-2012 10:51 AM
cherokee96red
Re: If you were dumped, do you wish your X failure?

Don't need to wish him to fail.
He does both the wishing and failing for me.
No matter what I say to him, he contorts and twists it until it resembles (to him anyway) ill will from me on him.
Can't claim to not have wished him ill in the last year, but am getting better at not doing it.
For the 2nd time in a year, he is jobless. DS told me last night. This has been the pattern for 23 years. No surprise there.

So I just sit back and enjoy the show that Karma is providing whilst I munch on hot, buttery popcorn.
Whatever he "suffers" is a result of his decision to desert his family for a moral and ethically devoid illusion of an OW.
05-22-2012 08:44 AM
arbitrator
Re: If you were dumped, do you wish your X failure?

Quote:
Originally Posted by LoveMouse View Post
Happy bad things happen? No, I just like being smarter.
Mouse

Just reason on you and your son's part to gloat in private, smiling from ear to ear, and lip syncing the fateful words, "I told you so!"
05-22-2012 07:41 AM
arbitrator
Re: If you were dumped, do you wish your X failure?

I don't really wish my STBXW any ill-will at all. I just hope and pray that one day she will see the error of her ways and will come to embrace what true remorse is, if that is at all possible. I'd greatly like to think of a conscience being defined as the sublimeal voice of God talking to and counseling us on both our actions and our inactions, and how those choices that we make are truly made to the service to Him as well as to our fellow man.

At one point in time, I might well have considered R, but, alas, that man no longer exists. I may have forgiven her, but I will never live long enough to ever forget! But, in retrospect, I truly feel that that is more of a human characteristic than one ordained by God.
05-22-2012 06:53 AM
LoveMouse
Re: If you were dumped, do you wish your X failure?

The only time I wish bad things to happen to the X is when she's rotten to the kids...and that's every day.
BUT I do find lots of humor in her "Mr. Wonderful"....like yesterday, her car was acting up, the only repair he knows is to replace the battery. Well, I happen to be quite informed on a lot of GM cars and knew it was her fuel pump and I've known this for about a month. So I tell the OB to let him know it was the fuel pump and he might as well change the filter while he's @ it. My son offers him the advice and is told he doesn't know anything about cars and keep his comments to him self. The boy then goes and lets mom know it's the fuel pump, she tells him he has no idea about cars and to leave the repairs to her "new man". (my son has taken a tractor apart and back together by himself)
Last night she breaks down, she pays for a tow so a GM guy can tell her she needs a new fuel pump and a filter. LMAO Could have fixed it for $150 but now she's looking @ $700min. LMAO and my son looks like he's smarter than her "Mr. Wonderful" LMAO
Happy bad things happen? No, I just like being smarter.
Mouse
05-22-2012 04:54 AM
babyowlsrcute
Re: If you were dumped, do you wish your X failure?

I didn't have to wish this, he failed all by himself
Posted via Mobile Device
05-21-2012 11:34 PM
nice777guy I hope she experiences minor bladder control problems...and maybe a genital wart or two...

Otherwise I wish her nothing but the best!!!

And genital warts.
05-21-2012 04:17 PM
kruppmart
Re: If you were dumped, do you wish your X failure?

Well, I will never look back and care what happens to her or to her children (we do not have children together). Do I wish her luck? No ... Do I wish her anything bad happening (sickness, accident)? No
But I believe she will gets what she deserves (in a negative way), and I even do not have to do anything. In 5-10 years her surface beauty will be gone, and she cannot lure anymore men into her life to suck their money out. That's when she will be in a hole, and not come out of it ever again. Meanwhile, I will sit on my deck on the ocean and posting sundown pictures on facebook
05-16-2012 11:52 PM
quickdraw
Re: If you were dumped, do you wish your X failure?

Quote:
Originally Posted by cryin View Post
imo: people who leave a marriage "cause they're not in love anymore or not happy" are already on a path of self destruction anyway. Their lives are usually full of damage that they cause to others. They don't love themselves and aren't capable of loving anyone else. Its especially apparent if kids are involved.

The other person will not make them happy and will dump them on their arse at some point. We make ourselves happy as individuals. IMO the key to that is really being grateful for what you already have in your life.

But these types of people are self entitled and sociopathic in nature. They're not grateful for anything or anyone. (even their own children..they will say "the kids will be fine" or "the kids will be ok" They justify the harm that they cause to others with self entitled nonsense.

They won't find an "upgrade" because there is no such thing. That "upgrade" will have a whole new set of issues and problems. Those issues and problems will cause that "new" relationship to fail. when the chemical high wears off and commitment and real work are needed in the relationship.

people "fall in love" but commitment is what makes a marriage.

Love is a choice........people choose to love and be committed to a person and family.

If you have been "dumped" divorced by your ex spouse, they have chosen not to love you.
Cryin - This piece describes my situation perfectly. You have no idea how brilliant this writing is, and how much better I feel about myself just having read it. THANK YOU!!!
This thread has more than 15 replies. Click here to review the whole thread.

Posting Rules
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Member Area

Find a Therapist:


Sponsor Ads


Sponsor Ads




Get The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory Help Guide via Email:
Name:
Email:




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 02:02 AM.



Copyright 2007 - 2013 © Talk About Marriage

SEO by vBSEO 3.6.0 PL2 ©2011, Crawlability, Inc.