Dear tired and stressed superwoman!
How courageous of you to speak out about your feelings and I am so glad you have. That’s a good starting point for you to find your way forward. The first thing I would say to you is that you are not alone. I totally appreciate that the situation you are in is making you feel alone, isolated and very frustrated however there are some wonderful resources that you can tap into that will make a big difference to your situation. For starters I am here sharing with you. So that makes one more person who is concerned about you and your situation.
You certainly sound like you have been carrying the responsibilities of a superwoman. From my experience coaching and mentoring women I find it is a common thread in many frustrated relationships that the woman believes she needs to be a superwoman. I call it the “superwoman syndrome” because it is so very prevalent in women who take their responsibilities seriously.
There are a couple of things that come to my mind to share with you if that is okay with you. Build a network of caring people around you.
Reach out for more support. Particularly, find someone who you consider to be a confidant who can walk this journey with you until you are out the other side. This could be your general practitioner, a counsellor or a personal coach like myself. You have begun to reach out for help. Take it a step further and reach out for ongoing professional support that will give you the wisdom, insight and encouragement you need at this time. Have a good talk to your general practitioner (GP).
The fact that your hair is falling out can be indicative of severe stress or it could be a sign of hormonal imbalance. I feel it would be wise for you to have a full blood test to ensure all your blood levels are where they need to be and also your hormones. You mention you were pregnant when the car incident occurred. I am not sure how long it is since the birth of that child however I am wondering if you could be suffering from postpartum depression as well as all the weariness from your responsibilities. It could be worth asking your GP about this and also about depression in general.
Once you have a network of support around you then you can consider putting in place some boundaries
in relation to the way in which your partner behaves towards you and communicates with you. Please visit my website www.trailblazingwoman.com.au
and read my blog entries. Whilst these blogs are written for women whose partners suffer with depression the guidance in these blogs is applicable to effectively managing any relationship. The next blog I will be posting will be specifically about “setting boundaries in relationships”. Keep an eye out for it.
That will be your next step to freedom. However do not start on this part of the journey until you are feeling stronger within yourself physically and emotionally, have a strong support network around you and someone you can talk to when you need advice. Be gentle on yourself!
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