I am 26 and my husband is in the military . We have been married for about two years and his anger is getting worse and worse. At first it was little things and now it is everything and the words are louder crueler and meaner than ever.
For example this past week every morning our baby (9months) wakes up crying. Then our 8 year old comes in talking and he gets so angry that he screams yells and cusses us and slams everything and leaves the room.
If I dont answer him the way he wants me to or do for him like he wants I get this big huge fight with him, he yells cusses screams and belittles me to no end telling me im stupid and so on.
There is nothing I have not been called or anything left unsaid to me. I used to have such confidence in myself and pride but I am slowing dying and chipping away into an insecure , sad woman.
I walked on eggshells before to not trigger his temper. He blames me for his explosive anger saying if I would just shut my f**** mouth that he wouldnt get so mad.
I used to be quiet and the more this happens more anger and resentment build inside of me. I have started talking back telling him no or to get over it. I tell him he is acting like a two year old whos not getting his way and he needs to grow up. With me standing up for myself came bigger and worse fights. If I speak my mind im nothing but a mouthy B**** and he hates me and tells me to get the f*** out of his house that I am a bum. Min you I work and pay bills too.
My love for him was once great and now is only a small flicker. Just today he threw a fit because I have asked him to just put the clothes in the hamper. Well he was throwing them beside the bed so I left them there for three days. He walked into the room and saw the pile and went off on me about it. Told me I was a B**** because I left them there. If I dont grab the remote when he asks for it even though I am busy and he is just watching TV , I get cussed.
If the baby cries he complains about her. If my son speaks he complains saying he never shuts up. He wants everyone silent around him unless he asks you to speak.
I have no respect for a man who I used to look up to. I dont want to do for him like I did. I have no intimate thoughts about him.
His screaming rages are killing me and who I am. He even agreed that he needs help and agreed I wasnt always so snappy and rude. He has made me this way. I used to be so sweet but now I do not care. If I stand up for myself it can get bad. He yells and blames me for everything because I dont walk away or I dont shut my f*** mouth when he tells me even though he continues to rant and rave .
When he is mad he does not care who is around kids friends family nothing. He will cuss me out especially in front of the kids.
I dont want to leave him but this is killing me , he has made me so insecure about who I am I am starting to get jealous and think he is always up to something when really it is nothing. He takes no blame for this. He said I am crazy but I was not like this until he rages got so bad. Please any advice is so very much appreciated.
We did go to a counselor , it only made things worse because we were "tattling" to her and we just fought more after.
For example this past week every morning our baby (9months) wakes up crying. Then our 8 year old comes in talking and he gets so angry that he screams yells and cusses us and slams everything and leaves the room.
If I dont answer him the way he wants me to or do for him like he wants I get this big huge fight with him, he yells cusses screams and belittles me to no end telling me im stupid and so on.
There is nothing I have not been called or anything left unsaid to me. I used to have such confidence in myself and pride but I am slowing dying and chipping away into an insecure , sad woman.
I walked on eggshells before to not trigger his temper. He blames me for his explosive anger saying if I would just shut my f**** mouth that he wouldnt get so mad.
I used to be quiet and the more this happens more anger and resentment build inside of me. I have started talking back telling him no or to get over it. I tell him he is acting like a two year old whos not getting his way and he needs to grow up. With me standing up for myself came bigger and worse fights. If I speak my mind im nothing but a mouthy B**** and he hates me and tells me to get the f*** out of his house that I am a bum. Min you I work and pay bills too.
My love for him was once great and now is only a small flicker. Just today he threw a fit because I have asked him to just put the clothes in the hamper. Well he was throwing them beside the bed so I left them there for three days. He walked into the room and saw the pile and went off on me about it. Told me I was a B**** because I left them there. If I dont grab the remote when he asks for it even though I am busy and he is just watching TV , I get cussed.
If the baby cries he complains about her. If my son speaks he complains saying he never shuts up. He wants everyone silent around him unless he asks you to speak.
I have no respect for a man who I used to look up to. I dont want to do for him like I did. I have no intimate thoughts about him.
His screaming rages are killing me and who I am. He even agreed that he needs help and agreed I wasnt always so snappy and rude. He has made me this way. I used to be so sweet but now I do not care. If I stand up for myself it can get bad. He yells and blames me for everything because I dont walk away or I dont shut my f*** mouth when he tells me even though he continues to rant and rave .
When he is mad he does not care who is around kids friends family nothing. He will cuss me out especially in front of the kids.
I dont want to leave him but this is killing me , he has made me so insecure about who I am I am starting to get jealous and think he is always up to something when really it is nothing. He takes no blame for this. He said I am crazy but I was not like this until he rages got so bad. Please any advice is so very much appreciated.
We did go to a counselor , it only made things worse because we were "tattling" to her and we just fought more after.