If she is not court ordered to be there, she can leave at any time.
A mental health facility should not be telling a person to leave their spouse. Such decisions are up to the individual.
However, she has some pretty serious mental health issues. Can she really function on her own?
The marriage worked fine in the beginning as long as we worked as a team (we even had to act as married during the courtship for even that to work). As for function on her own, that is a very interesting question. This is where we start looking at the complexity of of the relationship. If she remains married, she can be semi-independant because her spouse satisfies needs that allow her some level of freedom, if she divorces, she would need a Personal Care Attendant.
p.s. by act as married, I mean, romance, teamwork, acting as close friends do, the showering help turned into romantic showering and brought sex into the relationship, sleeping in the same bed, doing chores together, the list goes on.
In other words, I had to choose between marrying her and leaving her. There was nothing normal about the relationship other than the attraction that became love (and the kissing, hand holding, etc) Sure, delusions do happen with her, but they usually don't interfere with her life, when she has them, I just tell her that I believe that she believes them and leave it at that, as for seizures, I just simply look for the signs and stay at her side. sometimes cuddling makes them less likely to happen, and as for the CP, see above, I have to practically get intimate close to satisfy her bathing needs, i.e. she cannot reach her back and I do a much better job cleaning her private areas than even P.C.A.s do oddly enough. In return she chooses to get my back clean.
pcas entering the picture to lighten the load actually caused the downward spiral in the marriage originally because first of all, they started bathing her, making her less happy and causing the sex to die in the relationship and the chores got taken over by them causing us to do much less together resulting in the marriage going cold.
now my wife says she doesnt want the personal care attendants around the home anymore, she wants to shower with me and she wants to be doing the chores together with me again because she was happier with that period of time. we even agreed that because she knows how to use oven bake clay that she can work with the stove and I can work with the range top and do the stirring since that is an area I am better at. She decided to sweep when I use the dust pan since she is better at sweeping and can't use the dust pan.