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post #16 of 82 (permalink) Old 10-24-2013, 11:48 PM
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Re: Siblings that are possibly "involved" with each other!

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What does the gay couple have to do with a possibly incestuous relationship?

Comparing a consensual homosexual relationship between two adults and incest is odd and offensive to me.
The brother and sister are adults. If they are sexual with each other, they are also in an adult consensual relationship.

Why is one worse than the other

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If neither of them are married, it is cheaper for them to live with someone. If they get along, then why shouldn't they live together? Or do you think it would be better if they live with a stranger? I've known people who hated their housemates, whether same sex, or opposite sex. Living with a family member you get along with is much better than living with a stranger you may or may not get along with.

In many foreign countries, family relationships are very close and they look after each other. Emotional bonds do not equal sexual contact.

As far as going on "romantic" vacations together, I don't know what you mean. Friends go to places together where honeymooners also go. Doesn't mean the friends have anything but friendship going on. It is better than going alone.

You are making a lot of assumptions based on your own perceptions. Maybe your perceptions and assumptions are wrong?

Have you seen them having sexual contact of any sort? If not, you are being very unfair.
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Re: Siblings that are possibly "involved" with each other!

So what's next, are a few of you gonna start saying that it's ok for a dad to sleep with his daughter or a mom sleep with her son as long as they are all of age?
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So what's next, are a few of you gonna start saying that it's ok for a dad to sleep with his daughter or a mom sleep with her son as long as they are all of age?
No... but who knows what's right/wrong anymore.

The point is that the moral codes of the past have been basically broken. Where are the lines drawn these days? Who knows.

The argument that is always given is that anything between consenting adults is ok. Either it is or it is not.

If these two are having sex, I would not want to be their friends either. I definitely hope that there are no children born from it.

But do most people really even care anymore?

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No... but who knows what's right/wrong anymore.

The point is that the moral codes of the past have been basically broken. Where are the lines drawn these days? Who knows.

The argument that is always given is that anything between two consenting adults is ok. Either it is or it is not.

If these two are having sex, I would not want to be their friends either. I definitely hope that there are no children born from it.

But do most people really even care anymore?
Yes people still care or there wouldn't be jails full of parents or teachers who molested their children or students! Molestation and incest are disgusting and are both very wrong, and anyone that does not think so needs to be in therapy or locked up for awhile!
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Yes people still care or there wouldn't be jails full of parents or teachers who molested their children or students! Molestation and incest are disgusting and are both very wrong, and anyone that does not think so needs to be in therapy or locked up for awhile!
What you describe here are things done to children. This thread is not about sexual abuse of children. Most people do draw the line when it comes to children.


The topic you brought up is about possible sex between consenting adults who happen to be brother/sister.

Don't twist my words. I said consenting adults.
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That would be called a straw man logic fallacy EleGirl.

Twist your words into something that you didn't say so that he could ridicule what you allegedly said.
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I don't even see the need to debate whether what this couple is doing is "right" or "wrong" (though I'd opt for the latter), but whether it's reasonable to cut potential creepiness out of his and his wife's life. The answer being, of course it is.

We all make decisions as to what we're willing to put up with in our lives. It's perfectly legitimate for Wing Man to draw that line just short of this couple.
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What you describe here are things done to children. This thread is not about sexual abuse of children. Most people do draw the line when it comes to children.


The topic you brought up is about possible sex between consenting adults who happen to be brother/sister.

Don't twist my words. I said consenting adults.
Well to me 20 or 22 is still a kid but is "technically" labeled a young adult, and sorry but any sibling or inbreeding of any kind is always going to be sick and disgusting to me and most people. And yes sex should be between two consenting adults but it should also take place between two.............separate DNA's.
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Well to me 20 or 22 is still a kid but is "technically" labeled a young adult, and sorry but any sibling or inbreeding of any kind is always going to be sick and disgusting to me and most people. And yes sex should be between two consenting adults but it should also take place between two.............separate DNA's.
20? 22? You said that they are in their 30's.

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So my wife has this friend that she's known for about 25 years who is a nice girl but a bit odd at times, and at age 38 this girl has never been married and has never really dated and doesn't seem interested in that either. She does however live with her younger brother who's 35, and they have been "roomates" now for about 10 years after moving out of their parents house at the same time together. And they both seem verrrrry close but in an odd sort of way, and whenever she stops by to visit my wife she always goes on and on about her brother with this bright eyed look on her face. The two of them are always going out to movies, dinners, and taking vacations together to romantic spots like they were a couple. I have suggested that maybe she should start to distance herself from her friend, because the thought of incest really creeps both of us out and is totally gross!

Does this sound like these two are "involved" and if so would it creep you out as well?


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20? 22? You said that they are in their 30's.
I was referring to a parent trying to sleep with their kids and I strayed away from the original example I guess, and wether they are 12 or "22" it is still their kid pretty much no matter if they are considered a young adult or not. But all in all it's very creepy and disgusting!
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I think if the question is do you have the right to distance yourselves from this "couple" the answer is of course. No one can force you or your wife into friendship. Are you second guessing yourself because you feel guilty with your reaction?
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I think if the question is do you have the right to distance yourselves from this "couple" the answer is of course. No one can force you or your wife into friendship. Are you second guessing yourself because you feel guilty with your reaction?
This is her childhood friends that grew up on the same block as her so it's much harder on my wife, but when we both started noticing how deeply "attached" this girl and her brother are about 4 or 5 years ago is when we started backing away and avoiding them. Her friend even said this direct quote one time giggling when talking about marriage, {quote}"why would I ever need a husband when I have Dave"(her brother). We both thought that seemed a bit creepy and there are many other things she has said that were just as bad, and the fact that she says that "Dave" gives her good foot rubs is very alarming too. I have four sisters and I never once have even thought about touching their feet, and none of them have ever even thought about asking me to either.

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I was referring to a parent trying to sleep with their kids and I strayed away from the original example I guess, and wether they are 12 or "22" it is still their kid pretty much no matter if they are considered a young adult or not. But all in all it's very creepy and disgusting!

The thing is, you don't have any positive proof that they're in an 'incestual relationship', do you? Or do you guys stand over them to see if they're 'doin' it' or not? Has your wife witnessed any 'inappropriate' touching between the two, beyond the mention of the foot rubs? Discovered they share a bedroom?

It seems completely possible to me that they could both be asexual or have other reasons for not wanting romantic partners, but have chosen to enjoy each others company instead. Not every close relationship revolves around sex.

If it makes you uncomfortable, move on. You have every right to do so, and you should if it's that 'creepy' to you. But two siblings deciding to share a house, vacations, and their lives isn't necessarily wrong IMO.
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At this pount, you're just speculating. Gushing over a sibling is hardly enough evidence.

Are either of them seeing other people?
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