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Re: Siblings that are possibly "involved" with each other!

And unless you can catch them banging out on the patio or something, you do not have a case for anything! Not that you should!

Live and let live! Plenty more stuff in the world to greatly worry about!



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That would be called a straw man logic fallacy elegirl.

Twist your words into something that you didn't say so that he could ridicule what you allegedly said.
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No, people have tried to set up both of them for many years according to my wife and they want no part of it. And again you would have to actually see how "googly" they act towards each other in person to understand, and my wife has known them for about 25 years and has noticed the weird changes way more than anyone else(when I met them they were already living together and being gaga for each other).

At our wedding they both came together and with the way they were dancing close and wandering around side by side, we had a few people say how happy they were that she had finally found a nice man(not knowing that was her brother).
I think your suspicions are well founded. Don't let anyone make you feel like you're crazy. I have seen this happen to the affirmative.
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I think your suspicions are well founded. Don't let anyone make you feel like you're crazy. I have seen this happen to the affirmative.
I don't think anyone is making feel like he's crazy or telling him to embrace incest. He has no proof and if it makes him uncomfortable, he has all the right to stop contact with them.

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I think the reality here is that you have observed a pattern over the years and your wife feels the same.
I had a friend in a similar situation (mid 30's). They had lost contact in their early teenage years and reconnected about 20 years later. It came to light after a falling out between the sister and her best friend, she never denied it and they moved away. Last I saw her was on FaceBook.

But your suspicion (and your wives) are for a reason. I would recommend you distance yourself (even if your wife refuses to, you can't force her since they are her friends). Maybe if you do that, slowly it will steer you both in the right direction.

Needless to say, only on the internet will anyone try to justify incest if it's not hurting anyone.....excuse me?? I'm sorry but hello no incest is WRONG WRONG WRONG and in no way comparable to being gay. Two different things! There is no argument to justify incest. I'm sorry but HELL TO THE NO!
Oh we haven't hungout with those friends of hers for over two years now and my wife is perfectly fine with it, and my wife's friend has eased off considerably from trying to contact her except for maybe a Christmas or birthday card.
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Oh we haven't hungout with those friends of hers for over two years now and my wife is perfectly fine with it, and my wife's friend has eased off considerably from trying to contact her except for maybe a Christmas or birthday card.
Then keep it that way, out of sight out of mind. Move on for your own sanity.
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And unless you can catch them banging out on the patio or something, you do not have a case for anything! Not that you should!

Live and let live! Plenty more stuff in the world to greatly worry about!
We are "living and let live" because my wife hasn't said a word about it to them and we both are moving on from them, but we still think it's quite creepy and gross and are entitled to feel that way from what we have observed.
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I don't think Wing Man made any accusations since his post mentions "possibly" involved. He didn't say they were. So he is entitled to his suspicions of the "possibility" given the pattern over the years.
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I don't think Wing Man made any accusations since his post mentions "possibly" involved. He didn't say they were. So he is entitled to his suspicions of the "possibility" given the pattern over the years.
Yeah it's more like an "observation" based on behaviors and things said by this girl and her brother. And at first I felt it but kept it to myself, but then one day my wife(who knows these people better than anyone)says to me that she feels something weird going on with those two, and once she said that I was like "yesss - I totally agree".
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Re: Siblings that are possibly "involved" with each other!

The perceived actions of folks can certainly evoke the raising of one's eyebrows. Whenever I've been in that situation before, I'll just raise my own eyebrows. And whether there is some element of "probable cause" regarding any overt wrong-doing of theirs, I'll just choose to move on, usually not having much to say, if anything at all, to those suspicious folks and just live and let live.

Other than that, I might say something to my close neighbors, but that would really be about the extent of it!



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I have always been a firm believer that most of the time(not always) - where there's smoke....there's a fire.
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I have always been a firm believer that most of the time(not always) - where there's smoke....there's a fire.
While I personally don't like what they are supposedly doing any more than the next guy, it shouldn't really be anyone's concern other than their own.

To that end, just let them burn up in their own pyre.

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Re: Siblings that are possibly "involved" with each other!

So now I'm the bad guy?

@ arbitrator, I'd like to see the look on the Mr. DA's face when the world gets over run by inbreeds that eat human flesh.

@ 6301,No it was the "Wrong Turn"!

@ l.g, sound like we will all be ok after all.

Why do I still have a graving for moon shine?

On a serious note, WM I think *if* there is incest going on the effectiveness of intervening won't mean sh1t, lets face it thier reality is already jacked up in the first place.

I think your wife has known her this long and as long as its not toxic to her or the marriage then all is good.



I still would not let my wife spend the night at her friends house. Just saying!
What if they get hungry?
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So now I'm the bad guy?

@ arbitrator, I'd like to see the look on the Mr. DA's face when the world gets over run by inbreeds that eat human flesh.

@ 6301,No it was the "Wrong Turn"!

@ l.g, sound like we will all be ok after all.

Why do I still have a graving for moon shine?

On a serious note, WM I think *if* there is incest going on the effectiveness of intervening won't mean sh1t, lets face it thier reality is already jacked up in the first place.

I think your wife has known her this long and as long as its not toxic to her or the marriage then all is good.



I still would not let my wife spend the night at her friends house. Just saying!
What if they get hungry?
No we're both in our 40's so the days of having a sleep over or a slumber party are well in the past for the both of us, so I would not worry about that ever taking place - lol.
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No we're both in our 40's so the days of having a sleep over or a slumber party are well in the past for the both of us, so I would not worry about that ever taking place - lol.
But I do like your comment about the moonshine!

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