My husband has been diagnosed with border line bipolar disorder, took meds for a month and quit. sought no therapy. this was a couple years ago. since then and before we have been on a rollar coaster. nearly everyday we can start out ok but by mid-day he is ticked off at somthing and takes his anger out on me and the children. he often uses the f word and when he is upset with our girls tells them to f-ing quit what they are doing and yells God D***it. I have tried to talk to him about his anger and the way he talks to me and the girls. (we also have a newborn boy)
When I ask him to stop using the f word toward me and our children he comesback saying "you aint my fing boss, i can do what ever the F i want to do you fing B---."
there are other problems as well, trying to get help with children or house work is like pulling teeth. I am on leave from work now after having the baby but he dosent want me to go back. even when i was working(9 months pregnant, went into labor at work) he would say his job is harder and he shouldnt have to clean.
I dont expect him to clean as much as help me with the kids so i can clean uninterupted. Our childern our Almost 3, 1 1/2 and 7 weeks old.
Is it too much to ask him to feed the baby or make sure the toddlers dont jump on the baby while I wash dishes in the kitchen?
Also we are living pay check to paycheck and it kills my husband mentaly. he is constantly complaining about not having enough money. we have a townhouse, clothes, food, internet and cable. I dont think that is so bad. He keeps talking about how he missed his childhood and wishes we would of waited to have kids and he wants to be able to do what he wants when he wants. he gets really depressed about money, he wants brand new trucks and more guns, hundred acres in the woods, sports cars ect. He is never satisfied. I'm happy with what we have, I love my old reliable car, i dont want a big house or a new car. I just want to be simple. he has to have a big flat screen TV, bigger guns, RC cars ect.
I cant cope with the anger and the "nothing is good enough" mentality. i am tired of verbal abuse. I dont know what to do. but i dont what my children growing up thinking this is OK.
I dont know where to turn. I have no money to escape. and i want to work things out but cant talk with out being called a B---- and told to shut the F up.
When I ask him to stop using the f word toward me and our children he comesback saying "you aint my fing boss, i can do what ever the F i want to do you fing B---."
there are other problems as well, trying to get help with children or house work is like pulling teeth. I am on leave from work now after having the baby but he dosent want me to go back. even when i was working(9 months pregnant, went into labor at work) he would say his job is harder and he shouldnt have to clean.
I dont expect him to clean as much as help me with the kids so i can clean uninterupted. Our childern our Almost 3, 1 1/2 and 7 weeks old.
Is it too much to ask him to feed the baby or make sure the toddlers dont jump on the baby while I wash dishes in the kitchen?
Also we are living pay check to paycheck and it kills my husband mentaly. he is constantly complaining about not having enough money. we have a townhouse, clothes, food, internet and cable. I dont think that is so bad. He keeps talking about how he missed his childhood and wishes we would of waited to have kids and he wants to be able to do what he wants when he wants. he gets really depressed about money, he wants brand new trucks and more guns, hundred acres in the woods, sports cars ect. He is never satisfied. I'm happy with what we have, I love my old reliable car, i dont want a big house or a new car. I just want to be simple. he has to have a big flat screen TV, bigger guns, RC cars ect.
I cant cope with the anger and the "nothing is good enough" mentality. i am tired of verbal abuse. I dont know what to do. but i dont what my children growing up thinking this is OK.
I dont know where to turn. I have no money to escape. and i want to work things out but cant talk with out being called a B---- and told to shut the F up.